DO YOU think it's 'immoral' if I come from 'high moral' religeous parents to wear a strapless dress ok?

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Answer 1

Wear what you want...

Answer 2

It's a lovely dress, and everything important is decently covered. I admire that you respect your parents enough to be concerned over this, but if you are old enough to be getting married, you are certainly old enough to be choosing your own clothes.

What we are talking about here is a strapless wedding gown, not a slit-to-the-waist hooker suit. It's not as if a 1/4 inch wide strip of cloth is going to cover something shocking! While strapless wedding gowns are less traditional that what your parents may be used to, they are hardly more revealing than the short gowns of the 70's!

Finally, the lifelong committment you make in getting married is the thing you should be focused on. The rest of it is just trappings.

Answer 3

These are beautiful and stylish gowns. Strapless no longer means immodest. (I've seen some dresses that showed a lot of cleavage or back that had shoulders and sleeves -- which is more immodest in my book)

It is your day -- but it is also a very important day for your mother -- you are moving away from her nest! It is an important day for your father -- fathers are exceptionally protective of their daughters. Is the thought of seeing so much of you -- feeling that you are being too revealing -- causing them a lot of anxiety?

It is your day to show that you are mature enough to take on the responsibility of caring for that other person (kind of important in the big picture too, isn't he?) why do they always say it's HER day -- isn't it THEIR big day?

It is important for you to feel stunning... but remember that such a glow comes from love, not selfishness or vanity.

Dear one, find a way to look glowing without making "high moral" people feel uncomfortable. You don't need to cover everything to do that, do you?

Answer 4

I think it's a gorgeous dress, and you will most likely look stunning in it :) I don't see anything wrong in wearing it at all.

Though, if you are getting married in a church, I've heard of some brides having to find something to cover up their shoulders like a sash or a bolero. Might be worth checking out as well.

Answer 5

I think you should bow (slightly) to your parents' beliefs. During the ceremony, you should wear your strapless gown, but find a bolero jacket, a shawl, or even a spencer to wear over it. That way it's appropriate for church. Then, at the reception, wear the gown without the coverup as a ball gown. That's what my cousin did and she looked beautiful both ways.

Answer 6

Those dresses are completely tasteful. I do not see any morality problems with them.

On the other hand, you have to decide if you yourself have a moral problem with the dress. You don't want to be standing there on your wedding day uncomfortable that people are looking at your bare shoulders. If that is a problem for you than you should select a different dress.

Answer 7

The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you are having misgivings about it, and you need to listen to your instincts. Apparently, your parents have brought you up to dress modestly, to respect your body, and to have certain convictions about not attracting the wrong kind of attention from the opposite sex. I wonder what kind of respect that shows for them, that you'd humiliate them on your wedding day by wearing something that they'd find embarrassing? Also, what kind of respect does it show your husband that you'd publicly uncover yourself like this? Doesn't it bother you that other men will be seeing your back and shoulders, not to mention a lot of your chest? Isn't it important to you to keep yourself only unto him?

Yes, it IS your wedding day. But it's not wrong to consider how your actions are going to affect other people's feelings on any given day...particularly at important family events that will be remembered for years to come. Stop and think...if you know that this is going to hurt your parents or bring about their strong disapproval, do you really want your wedding day marred in their minds or in your mind by that memory...just over a dress? I'd ask you to stop and consider those things. There are BEAUTIFUL dresses that you can wear that do not immodestly expose your body...so the word from here is "Honour thy father and thy mother".

Answer 8

Those are awsome dresses! I had kinda the same problem, people kept telling me that you could not have strapless at the church. Finally I asked the priest and he said that I could. If its a concern for you wear a shal and you can shed it when you feel comfy. Congrats good luck!
So my answer is NO!

Answer 9

I had a heck of a time trying to understand your question. Are you asking us if we think it's immoral to wear a strapless gown? If so, no.

Your parents need to chill and realize we're in the 21st century.

Answer 10

Immoral is a bit strong of language. Do I think they are tasteful for a wedding, yes. In a very high strung moral family, they may not be appropriate, but they are not immoral.

Answer 11

Morality has little to do with straps or not. Morals come into play during sexual activity and feelings on certain personal issues. If you're worried about how you may be percieved then it may be better to go with a dress with straps.