Our relationship was 4 yrs old when i found out my bf was into cyber sex.I had a suspicion and i told him i would ignore whatever had happened for the sake of our love & that it must stop.There were absolutely no questions asked.6 months later i found out he was still into it.This time i confronted him,and told him it was over because he risked all that we had,for some unreal fantasy. Real or not,it was cheating. He broke my trust,he admits to it,but he says "it didnt mean anything". We were so much in love,and both of us think we had everything.Why would he then risk our relationship when we were so happy together? He says he knows i cant forgive him and he's sorry for the pain he has caused me,but he really loves me.I dont know whether this was another version of cheap **** for him,but i feel cheated.I love him a lot,he's always on my mind,but i dont know if i'll be able to regain my trust in him.Should i give him another chance? Should i take him back?
2007-01-12 18:21:26 · 13 answers · asked by tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he needs some counseling around his addiction to ****, or the "thrill" of "cheating." If you are truly committed to this and have one more try left inside of you, then I recommend you set some conditions under which you'll take him back. First, that he attends counseling, that you attend counseling together. Then give it some time.
You need to give him time to prove you can trust him.. and you need to give yourself time to heal from the betrayal.
2007-01-12 18:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he really loves you, then he'll do his part to stop his addiction for cyber sex. He should see a shrink or a counsellor on his own accord if he really cares about the relationship with you. As for trust, it'll take a long time to build it up again. But i think you should follow what your heart tells you and deal with whatever life throws at you. Forgiveness is acceptance. Good luck.
2007-01-12 18:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truely loves you he'll either stop "cold turkey" or get some therapy, as cyber sex can be addicting for some people and it is a "cheap thrill", cheap as in they don't have to pay $2.99 a minute, lol.
If he doesn't and you really feel like you will be unhappy, then leave. He is giving you your out, and letting you make the decsion by saying "he knows that you can't ever forgive him"......
think it over and decide, but remember as well, you only have one life to live, and that the only one responsible for your happiness is yourself
2007-01-12 18:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something that befell over 25 years in the past surprisingly much ruined my lifestyles. each time i presumed approximately it, the hatred returned. even although the guy to blame under no circumstances asked for my forgiveness, i ultimately did. somebody else in touch did ask and by utilising that factor I had permit pass of the animosity. There are some issues which take place in lifestyles that could under no circumstances be forgiven or forgotten. i'm happy I chosen to not permit it ruin what years I easily have left.
2016-12-16 03:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart and you'll be glad that you did.
Ignore your heart and you'll only have yourself to blame.
It's not so much how he has hurt you but the simple fact that he did cause you pain. Only you know how you feel about him now, and only you know if you have forgiven him.
But we all know once trust has been broken, you really don't get it back. At least not 100%. With that being said, are you able to continue this relationship with part of your heart already been burnt?
2007-01-12 18:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should take him back.he has a **** problem like most of us men out here do. He needs to respect you by not doing it but at the same time you need to help him in his weakness to ****. tell him he needs to be stronger and resist ****. don't let **** be the master of him. tell him to replace **** with doing something more positive. something that's gonna keep his mind off of it. i had the same problem and still do sometimes because of bad influences. but for the most part i have a grip on it and not it on me. tell him its more to life than looking and dreaming about fantasies.
2007-01-12 18:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by black pharoahs of egypt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got a problem...an addiction. Even if you take him back, it still might continue. Forgive but not forget. The choice is yours, really. If you are going to be suspicious of him for a long time, then is it really worth it? n
2007-01-12 18:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel that ur boyfriend feel sorry for it & u trust than u must feel sorry 4 him after certain age every one is involve in it and nothing wrong in it if it is just cyber sex
2007-01-12 18:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by sk_284 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if you can live with his addiction. It will not stop. So ask yourself if you can deal with this, and not let it come between you. I think you already know the answer.
2007-01-12 18:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by josh b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how you feel about him. Just be aware that many that are into cyber sex, find it difficult to give up.
2007-01-12 18:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Katie Poo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋