when a guy tells you that his relationship with his ex was "just physical" ? is that supposed to reassuring?
2007-01-12 18:21:17 · 27 answers · asked by Jenniferrr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it definitely doesn't reassure me.
2007-01-12 18:21:58 · update #1
he was saying this because i was insecure about him being friends with his ex girlfriend. he was telling me that their relationship was more of a physical one than anything. it didn't make me feel much better though.
2007-01-12 18:39:38 · update #2
No. That screams at you...I'm only looking for physical pleasure. If I were you I would possibly re-evaluate this relationship...it may be a one way, dead end road.
2007-01-12 18:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, don't believe everything you hear. Men will introduce all kinds of excuses - they'll wait until you eventually give him/them the prize. Then you are left with only a memory. The only reassurance you should have is that you didn't give it up just to be near him. Play hard to get... it might pay off for you. Be a lady and respect yourself... no one else will.
2007-01-13 02:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ms-No-It-All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to say that he didn't love her, she just boinked her. And NO this is not reasurring to most women. Most men do not know what to say to let the woman know that they love them and have feelings for them.
He probably has strong feelings for you, but instead of telling you that, he was trying to reassure you that you are better than his last woman.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel about him. And ask how he feels about you. Let him know that his last relationship being *just physical* doesn't make you feel any better. Be honest with him, and hopefully he'll be honest with you.
2007-01-13 02:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I've heard this in the past, and found it tremendously NON-reassuring. It means this guy even admits that he can separate any 'caring' feelings from his just 'mating' with a woman.
Wow. Just the guy we've all been looking for (ok. the type of guy who prostitutes may be lucky to find..).
:(
2007-01-13 02:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is suppose to mean that the relationship was JUST SEX! nothing else! Maybe in his mind it was reassuring but for you I bet It kind of hurt!? Try following my 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out! Ask Yourself:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!
2007-01-13 02:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Physical means purely for youknowwhat. I'm not too sure if that's the smartest way to reassure you that he's really wants to be with you or just wants to get in your pants.
2007-01-13 02:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by chilledguy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reassuring? probably not. it is his way of making himself not feel bad about using her sexually.
he is telling you he didn't love his ex, it was purely a sexual relationship. she was giving it up and he was there for the taking
2007-01-13 02:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't find it reassuring, but i would make sure my relationship with him was much more than that.
2007-01-13 02:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound reassuring to me. Sounds like he may just be the type that is looking for "physical" and then when it gets a little deeper, he runs out. I dunno, that statement just gives me that vibe.
2007-01-13 02:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am VERY VERY cautious when it comes to things men say. BUT it sounds to me like it was just sex. One big NO NO is you should NEVER delve into your past romances and sexual behavior, etc. I don't care how much your partner wants to know; what happened before you met him is none of his business!
2007-01-13 02:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋