What's wrong with me? Why can't I do regular things?

Question

I'm having serious problems with just ordinary things. I can't get to sleep unil 2 or 3 at night, but then I can't wake up and I no longer can hear my alarm clock or still don't get up when someone knocks on my door. I've started accidently missing classes because of it.
I also can't make myself even do small things like brush my teeth twice a day or sometimes even brush my hair. I procrastinate all my work and no matter how hard I try I can't do things earlier unless I get an idea right away.
I wanted to see a counsellor but I slept in and now am too afraid to confront the situation. I also have problems controlling my eating habits and I spend money on things that I really don't need. No matter where I am I never want to be there, until I've left. I have problems socializing and sometimes say really idiotic things that are really personal at the incorrect times. I don't like hugging or sitting really close to people. I'm also slow at everything. What's wrong with me?!?

Answer 1

It sounds like my life about this time last year. I go through days/weeks like this. It sounds like anxiety, maybe some depression as a result. As far as the anxiety is concerned, I just say to myself "what's the worst that could happen" and accept that possible outcome. So you missed an appointment, I'm sure that of all people the counsellor will understand. Probably happens all the time.

This time of year is particularly brutal as far as depression and similar things are concerned. There is less sunlight than normal and it really effects a lot of people. It called seasonal affectedness(?) disorder (S.A.D.). If you feel the low energy hit more when it is dark and dreary, maybe this is your problem.

Solutions:
- get a friend to call you so you don't miss classes or appointments (put the phone really close). That will help with the anxiety over being absent or late.
- if lack of sunlight is affecting your general moods, there are special lights you can buy. I'm sure you can google it, if interested.
- anxiety is a vicious circle. ex. You get a little behind, sit and worry about that, get further and further behind. At one point, I wanted to get pregnant, knowing I would be going on leave shortly before the results of my neglect would be discovered.
- force yourself to stop procrastinating. Make a "to do" list of little jobs (break big jobs up into little ones) and just pick one item without analyzing the choices. It is surprising how getting something finished makes you feel so much better.
- consider sleep aids to get your schedule back on track. Being well-rested is key to getting a good start to the day.
- call the counsellor tomorrow.

I get nervous in public and say stupid things too, and I don't like hugging. I never really thought it was anything more than part of my peculiar personality.

Answer 2

Sounds like a lot of people on here, not getting the right amount of sleep, and not waking up on time cause you don't hear the alarm clock. Maybe you need to sit your clock so that when it goes off, it is on music as loud as it will go. I fine that is usually the only way my alarm wakes me up. A lot of people don't want to be hugged or touched or have someone sitting really close to them.
Sounds like you may need to change your sleeping habits, and get up early and go to bed earlier, after a while you will actually be tired at that time of night, and hopifully you will sleep all night. You may want to go ahead and make an appointment with a therapist, and see what they have to say, it may be nothing but it is better to have it checked out then not to, and have it get more serious. Missing classes is not a good thing , and when it interfers with the way you live and function daily , then it is becoming a problem, and you should see a therapist. So i wish you the best, and i hope you make an appointment soon, and not keep putting it off.

Answer 3

Nothing buddy, you are perfectly fine. Who needs to sleep before 2 or 3 anyway. Get a louder alarm, **** the person whose at the door. And go back to the party if you decide you want to be there when you leave. And with hugging and sitting close to people, noone really likes there personal space invaded, you dont have to hug people. Everyone spends money on things they dont need, and everyone at one stage cannot control their eating habits, its probably from lack of sleep, but since you are going to sleep early and waking up late, you are probably getting the right amount. Dont worry, Be happy.

Answer 4

What do you do to keep you awake till 2 or 3 in the morning? If you toss and turn and your mind races I would think you are suffering from some kind of anxiety. If you are up till then what do you do with yourself till you go to bed. Are you doing things you enjoy like watching a late show? If you are depressed (constantly in a low feeling mood) then see a therapist or try just thinking positive and disciplining yourself.If it isn't depression or anxiety (which may require a therapist) then I suggest a bout of self motivation and self discipline.

Answer 5

That sounds like depression. I should know I suffer from the same thing. You need to get on med's. It will really help. I would pray that it is temporary and not something you have to deal with for the rest of your life like me.
If I want to be remotely normal and functional I have to take medication. It can really suck but it is the only way.
Either that or figure out what you are depressed about.

Answer 6

You can't do "regular" things??? Boy, you sure do write well! Better than most people. My first question would be, how old are you, and how long has this behavior been going on? Your behavior sounds like you may be depressed, and if I were you, I'd try harder to see a specialist - probably not a counselor, but a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Answer 7

This sounds like depression to me! But I am not an expert. I suggest you see a psychiatrist and a therapist (both is better than one or the other). I had depression when I was younger and it was similar to what you described. I know it is very hard to see a doctor when you are suffering. You need to force yourself to do it, it will be worth it. This can be treated and it will make your life better.

Answer 8

you sound just like me. i am trying exercise and sleeping pills. i also force my self to get to a park at least 2-3 times a week. just walk around and clear my head. take in the sun and some fresh air. it has helped. also hang out with people just talk to some one. it really helps. if that doesn't work get professional help

Answer 9

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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 10

Depression? Go see your doctor. You need someone that can give you an accurate diagnosis. Cheers!