OK So there is this guy that I've known for close to a year and we were aquaintances. Somehow along the way I guess we both began to like each other but we eventually stopped conversing. I still like him and think he's a cool person but he's very distant now. We've endured several incidents... many of them ending with me making a complete fool of myself which is why we probably don't talk anymore. Anyway, I asked him if he would help me and he told me he would buy he hasn't come through for me. Now I need to know how do I handle this. I was trying to slowly work my way back in but it's like he won't allow it. He's a Virgo and I'm a Capricorn. I'm not a real harsh person but I think I embarrased him in front of his friends and now it's like he's distant. Maybe I have scared him away which seems weird to me because he will speak to me from time to time. I don't know... I'm really confused. Are there any psychologists or really smart people who understands people that can explain this?
2007-01-12 18:05:48 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
call him up. "hey, I've been expecting you, when do you think you will stop by?" if he shy's away, wont give you a date or time, or if he does, and does not show, then get over him, he's not interested. if he does, try to catch up, then go slow from there. do not scare him, don't embarrass him or yourself by dwelling on things or getting emotional. why are guys like this? they just are. just go slow and steady, rebuilding the friendship, if he comes back into your life.
2007-01-12 18:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 02:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously something has happened that has caused him to distance himself from you.
The next time you see him, apologize for embarassing him in front of his friends, and for anything else you've done that you regret, and then WALK AWAY!! Don't call him. Don't bother him. Don't follow him around. Don't ask him for help. Don't. Just don't!
If he cares about you, he will accept your apology, and will not enjoy the time without you in his life. Then, he may cave in and call you. If so, let HIM do the calling... they like that! If he doesn't... you'll need to learn from your mistakes and move on.
No matter what, don't bother him about helping you out with whatever it was you needed help with. Take care of that yourself.. or ask another friend to help you. If he was interested, he'd have walked through fire to help.
2007-01-12 18:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can think of only 2 real possibilities:
1- he likes u so much that hes afraid (if that makes any sense). he might be afraid to be himself because he might think u will finally reject him. thats the reason for the awkwardness/no talking.
OR
2- he flat doesn't like you.
i'd try askin him straight out and see what he says. don't be embarrassed to ask-- just know ur gonna feel a lot better if u do. worst case scenario- he doesn't like u and u get over him. big deal.
2007-01-12 18:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Bobby D - The Angels Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, hopefully I'm smart enough. So, you have a crush on this guy and you have tried to show your feelings for him but it did not turn out right?! I know it's hard but unortunetely you can never force anyone to do something. You have to give it time. Get busy, ignore him and maybe he will come around. If he doesn't, then it's his loss. It sounds cliche but it is really TRUE. Good luck.
2007-01-12 18:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's easy call him up and ask him if he's mad at you and why, in order to clear up the matter that way you can get some sort of closure.
2007-01-12 18:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by gopher977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how distant i didnt read the whole thing so tell him what u think or what u feel
2007-01-12 18:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have embarassed him in front of anyone!! What would you do if it were turned around?
2007-01-12 18:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by pitman L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Psychologists don't understand a thing, and you don't either if you're into that horoscope crap.
2007-01-12 18:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋