Because my mom believes that I sleep in every morning and hit my kid and stuff because I let my kid vent to her... Now my mom actually believes this stuff and questions my parenting.. so I had to basically tell my kid that grandma is not allowed in our private life anymore and to tell her basic things, but not things that she can use against mommy... anyone else find this.. that grandma is such a good listener that she draws the kids out to vent about you....?
2007-01-12 18:02:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My mum knows what type of parent I am and would not believe my kids IF they said bad things. At this age ,7, they don't and I don't see it happening in the future either. The thing is...you have not said these things are not true. So if it it is true maybe they have a reason to talk to your mum
2007-01-12 18:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful that your children has a good relationship with their grandmother, that is so precious. Taking that from your children is not so good. The problem here is your relationship with grandmother, she uses the info that your children tells her so she can get back at you. I think you need to talk to her instead. She was a parent in a different generation and you are a parent to todays generation, life then and life today is totally different.
I ama teacher, I have experience with children for many years now and I know for a fact that children will not bad mouth if they are not encourage by the person they are talking to. I am sorry for your dilemna. You dont deserve it.
2007-01-13 02:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids tell anyone they think will listen if they think they can get one over on you. I told my grandad once that my dad had whipped me, and all he asked me was if I learned a lesson from it, and that he would've done the same thing. If they don't get any sympathy then they are not as likely to go spreading things that aren't true. I would talk to your mom and invite her to come stay at the house a few days and see for herself. When she realizes you are doing the things you are supposed to, she maybe won't be so sympathetic to your kid when he wants attention like that.
2007-01-13 10:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Marine08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 12 yrs old i wish he would go and tell someone about what goes on in my house stop him now it will get worse down the line and besides you had him all those hours pushing him out you are the mother make him and everyone else respect you as being the mother and tell your mom to mind her own business kids are not put on this earth to like everything that we do but they do have to except it when i was young my mom always told us i brought you in this world I'll take you out didn't understand what that meant until i had kids
2007-01-13 03:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by janet s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she might be playing both sides of the field, so she always gets what she wants and sympathy when she is not getting her way. Also, you would need to let her know that it is not okay to talk about people, anyone, when they are not there to defend them self. And if there are lies being told confront the issue with her in the presence of you and your mother so that she knows that lies will not be tolerated.
2007-01-13 02:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you live in the same house.
If so, that's where some of the problems start.
Instead of hitting your Children, use time outs,
or take something they like away for awhile.
Remember to stay calm, never let them see they
upset you by something they have done.
When she see how in control you are, she might
back off some.
2007-01-13 04:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them visit grandma until they can learn to keep their mouths shut! LOL!
Or tell them that for every bad thing they tell her about you, you will tell her 2 bad things about them!
2007-01-13 02:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by boysmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just told your kid to lie after you say its been lying to granny all along, make up your mind.
2007-01-13 02:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋