i've had the same girlfriend for 2 years and during those 2 years she's almost left me for 2 other guys. both times i told her to go for it then she cries about making the biggest mistake of her life, and i take her back (last time was just that, the last time). The last time was relatively recent and now suddenly we don't have sex anymore. At first i went along with her explanation that she had a urinary tract infection (she gets them a lot) then i found out that for the past week she hasn't had it. everytime i even try anything sexual she pushes me away, gets mad,gets upset, ect... it just seems like she's not interested in me anymore and i have suspicions she's getting it from elsewhere.. I love her more than anything, but this does make me wonder about what she doesnt when i'm not around, mainly because i know that she has left me for others before. I also don't think its at all fair that we only have sex when she does(occasionally) want to, and never when i want to.
any response?
2007-01-12 17:45:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think i conveyed my message a little wrong..not a lot of space to write.. She has never actually cheated on me, she has just on 2 seperate occasions liked another guy. and she never actually left me for them. i just knew she liked them so i encouraged and pushed her to leave me for them. i did this because i knew she wouldn't leave me, right after though or with a day or so she no longer wants them. and the second time i made her wait a whole month before i'd take her back. And her urinary tract infections actually are (from what i know) from me and her having sex because she always hurts a lot after we're done then the next day has a lot of UTI symptoms. She recently had a UTI but it has been gone for prolly about a week and she has not wanted to have sex for about a month. I hope that conveyes my situation a bit more... and she likes kissing and everything, not making out but kissing she just doesn't want to have sex. i just have some trust issues i'm curious about...
2007-01-12 19:16:49 · update #1
If u lover her talk to her about it. But there is a very good chance she is cheating on u. But sometime women go through a stage of not wanting to have sex. I went through that with my boyfriend for over 5 years. He confronted me about it and I told him i was not in the mood. Talk to her it might make a difference. Good Luck!!
2007-01-12 17:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Aimster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason as to why human females can have sex all year round instead of just seasonal like some animals. It's to keep their male partners around for support during the very long child rearing process. Now she doesn't give you sex becaue she already knows that you're not leaving.
She sounds like a very selfish & foolish person. If she won't have sex with you when you want it at all, then It's all about her and her loins.
You say she's left you for others before? She thinks she can get away with it and then always come back to you. She knows your secure and intends to take it for grant it.
Sounds like you don't want to leave her. So here's where you mixed things up. She knows you're not going anywhere. So go get yourself a lot of super hottie female friends. Now she's got competition. She's losing control over your sexual behavior. So now she'll have to put out to keep you.
Good luck.
2007-01-13 02:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated on you with 2 other guys, you allowed her to do so, and you THINK she is getting it from somewhere else? Are you the biggest doormat in the world or does it turn you on that she bangs other guys?! Either way - she's a skank! Frequent urinary tract infections are a sign of a promiscuous girl.
2007-01-13 01:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you want to get it somewhere else. You should be the one to break up with her this time. She sounds like a player, and she keeps running back to you coz she knows if it don't work out with the others, you will take her back in a heartbeat. If she loved you truely, she would'nt keep leaving for other guys.
2007-01-13 01:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you need to trust your intution, i would agree that it sounds like your girlfriend is getting it somewhere else. Especially if she has tried to break it off before, it sounds like she wants to break up and go off and try new things, but your kind of like her security blanket, and this stops her breaking all ties, while you keep forgiving her and taking her back, your setting up a pattern for future behaviour, This is not healthy for either of you, and you deserve better then to be treated this way.........you be the brave one and end it, while it will hurt the pain will lessen i promise
2007-01-13 01:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by jodie k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her ,! Believe me she isnt worth it if its all her then dont stay with her. A relatioship involves two poeple and if one person isnt happy then something bad is bound to happen from breaking -up to cheating
But its ok there are plenty more out there =]
2007-01-13 01:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Iloveyou<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girlfriends you can change. Wives are a bit more difficult. Move on. Things will never be the same again
2007-01-13 03:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by simpletrader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP STOP STOP! Before you do anything you will regret let me fill you in. I don't want to sound like a smart *** here but i want to help you. I know alot in this area.
First, It sounds to me like she holds the power in the relationship and you don't. Bad bad bad... from now on in your life i want YOU to be in POWER in everything. always.
Now before I get ahead of myself i need to address one issue. You're in love with this girl right? I know exactly how that feels. I'm in love with a girl too so i understand exactly what you're going through.
Girls are attracted to certain things in a man. you need to have a life. you need to act as tho shes not your main thing in life.. shes just secondary. you decide when she comes or goes.. i know its hard because you love her but trust me... it sounds like you're loosing her. but you don't need to do anything rash. you don't need to break up with her. just go and live a life. stop asking for her attention. SHE SHOULD BE CHASEING YOU! NOT YOU CHASEING HER! Never CHASE her!! NEVER!! I'm not sure if you live with her or not.. but don't call her... and when she calls act like your busy and you'll call her later.. you see what i'm hinting at here? never ask for sex.. that's just one step away from begging. she's obviously getting sex from some other guy right? and so far you've let her do it. thats a sign of weekness. again she is the one controling the relationship.. so heres waht you do, go get your sex from other girls too. YOu need to act like you don't need her.. i'm not saying to be mean or crule.. i tink you know what i mean.. Its all about attraction... and by the way you've been acting and the way you've let her control you... you sadly lost all attraction she ever had for you... but you can build it back up.. i only pointed out a few things. what you really need is this website right here http://www.doubleyourdating.com/dt/ it's just what you need.. take care alright
God Bless, Peace & Love, Jimi
2007-01-13 02:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jimi Blackrock 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your suspicions are probably correct.. Loss of interest in sex is one of the telltale signs of a cheating partner.
2007-01-13 02:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I know how she feels. The reason why she doesnt want to do it anymore is because she doesnt like you anymore. Shes just making herself be with you, maybe because she feels bad? When I had a boyfriend and he tried to kiss me or something I would push him off. She just can't make up her mind if she wants to be with your or not. I guess she lost intrest. Who knows...
Im Sorry : [[
Have a serious talk with her. Ask her " I want you to be honest with me, Do you still like me?"
See how it goes on from there.
2007-01-13 01:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cindyyy<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋