Ok well hes told me he is a jealous and possessive man like (hes slipped it into conversations)
And he is always saying things like I knew it you dont love me you dont care at all.
and he is always the one to forgive and come back saying im sorry.
Also when were laying down watching a movie or something he will lay on me and just kind of lay his head on my chest and look up at me(while watching the movie)
He also likes to play around and like hold me so I cant get up.
He has held my arms above my head and tickled me with the other hand as well (he knows im extremelly ticklish)
and he's always joking around like lets turn off all the lights and just feel around or saying you know this room is clothing optional.
Also anytime were sitting up watching a movie he will playfully push me down onto the bed so we can lye down and then he will spoon me or something like that and hes is always trying to bite on my ear and he will tell me when he does he'll say im gonna nibble on your ear.
2007-01-12 17:33:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THis guy is operating in fear of losing you. Unfortunately people like that are subconsciously waiting for the inevitable to happen and subconsiously promote it. He has a loser mentality (he is a victim) and feels inadequate and bad about himself as a result of rejection. THis is a problem to any relationship. This man has a spirit of unworthiness and needs to deal with it. THis is not your problem - he came to you carrying this big load on his shoulder). THe man needs counselling and right now is not good for you. TIme will only promote further problems if these current issues are not dealt with quickly. My suggestion is that you suggest gently that he needs therapy or better still to seek christian counselling. He needs to know who he is in Christ and who Christ is in him. HE needs to be shown that he is worthy and special and how GOd sees him. Take him to Psalm 139 and buy him the book WILD AT HEART which is written by John Eldredge especially for men. ALso buy him the book by John Maxwell called BE ALL YOU CAN BE. Pray for him but dont criticise him or come forward bossy. DOnt destroy a person when he is down.
It is so sad when people walk around feeling condemned because of one cruel incident that happened to them in their lives. It is tragic to see what happens to such a person especially when their crisis was not dealt with. THey can carry that baggage on their backs forever. All the more reason for us to be careful how we treat others and to behave with integrity and dignity and accountability. Sadly people are too self centred to care and even cruel in their attitudes towards others. WHat they forget is that the wheel does turn on them one day! This man is clearly hurting at the expense of what another person has done to him. It might have been through abuse of some kind in his childhood.
To everyone out there who feels hurt, go seek counsel and sort it out. Your life is so precious and you deserve better than to walk around feeling bad about yourself. Become positive and override feelings of negativeness and become confident by refusing to give in to fear. KNow what you are worth and use your talents that you have been given to the best of your ability. If you fail just bounce back and dont quit! Learn to love yourself. Look in the mirror daily and say:"I am special and unique and who I am because GOd made me to be me and crerated me for HIS PURPOSE. FInd your purpose: read THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE BY RICK WARREN. DOnt try to imitate others - believe it or not 99% are trying to imitate someone else!. People are too busy trying to be clones of other people. You cannot be clones. Just be who you were meant to be. Be humble and caring and considerate and joyful and pleasant. DOnt bad mouth and just be accountable. You set the pattern and be a good influence. People like positive people - few people like to hang around losers because they just drag you down with them! And you WILL have many friends when you are nice to be with. Take risks that are positive and not going to hurt others. GO and be who you are meant to be.
THis is what your man needs to hear. Positive stuff. He is using emotional blackmail to make you feel bad because he is feeling bad and pulling you down to his level in the process. This relationship is doomed for failure if he continues this way. Clearly you may be the one person who can help him but it requires tremendous effort and time to get a person healed up. Lead him to someone who can help him and see if it is making a difference and if he refuses then get out of this situation as fast as possible.
You must make sure you dont start mothering him or smothering him. LAy it out gently and KINDLY. If you are not sure how to be diplomatic ask someone you know whom he likes and is good with people to talk to him. A diplomat is described as someone who can tell you to take a hike and you look forward to the trip!
I wish you well and for your sake hope you find a positive solution.
2007-01-12 18:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is jealous and possesive but also seems like a nice guy really who is confused by his own behavior. Since you admit you realize he is like this, if you do not enjoy his behavior you should just split up with him. Maybe he just really likes you and your shy (as your name implies). Sometimes shy people are hard to deal with.
2007-01-12 17:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he wants to get into your pants. He's making it clear, but not being very direct, though, that is what he's saying.
Remember: you don't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with.
2007-01-12 17:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Dreaming of You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes fallen head over heels
2007-01-12 17:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes u. good luck
2007-01-12 17:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u?
2007-01-12 17:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋