2007-01-12 17:28:04 · 12 answers · asked by G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with witchywoman, when my husband and I got married we gave out tiny tins of Altoids...tied with a ribbon and a little card with our names and date on it...people know we always have Altoids on hand, so much so it is almost a joke! Everyone loved it...And it was kinda helpful after a meal, appetizers and drinks...
We also gave out brown sugar fudge and chocolate fudge (made by me) as Groom's cake instead of crappy fruit cake...I don't know if anyone except we Maritimers (In Canada) give out groom's cake but this is what we do in the East...
It doesn't have to be expensive, just something thoughtful to mark the day...the big deal things like pewter ornaments and crystal picture frames are great if you are a millionaire, if not, do the matchbook thing or some of the other inexpensive ideas in this forum...
A friend of mine gave out little bottles of bubbles which were sweet! Another friend gave out tiny fabric bags filled with birdseed...Another friend still gave a caramel apple kit for one to each person, complete with stick and caramels, she wrapped these in basket wrap and tied with a copper coloured ribbon, she had a fall wedding, so this was really cute!
I have also seen little hershey bars personalized with computer printer paper wrappers...these can be cute for less formal weddings
some invitation companies even have little notepads the same size and shape as matchbooks, I think these are becoming more popular as less people actually have the need for matches as there seem to be way less smokers these days...
You don't need to give out favors but it is kind of fun...I went to a wedding where they gave everyone a laminated poem about the couple with the names and date on it...this was at a really simple 2nd wedding for an older couple and it was really nice and appropriate!
2007-01-12 18:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is from the Bridal Guide
"You are not really obligated to give favors at all, so two apiece seems overly generous! But favors are a nice memento of a wedding: They not only add to the ambiance but will also be appreciated by your guests. Your favors can reflect the theme or style of your wedding as well as you and your grooms personalities. So use your imagination - have some fun, consider a number of ideas, make a list of possibilities and choose the favor that best suits your budget and wedding style. "
Hope it helps
2007-01-12 17:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by AngelWings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly don't have to, but if you have the time and budget it's a cute "thank you for attending" gesture. In some parts of the country it seems more important a tradition than others, but it's certainly not a an etiquette MUST DO.
It can be as simple as a small candy or a bookmark from the dollar store. I have even seen couples hand out packs of gum and a little note saying "Kaylee and Brian: Sticking together!"
There is a trend lately to tell your guests you gave the favor money to charity, but this new practice is actually bad manners. (Giving to charity is not bad manners, but telling your guests you gave to charity instead of giving them a wedding favor IS bad manners. It's vulgar to tell people where you donate to charity AND it's disrespectful to your guests to redirect a gift before it was even given.)
2007-01-13 00:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I own a country club and handle all the wedding planning. I agree with Cincinnati minister. Most of these favors (unless they are edible) are tossed out. Many guests just leave them behind at the facility. I have seen a lot of money wasted on some very useless items.
One alternative idea is to make up a small sign for each table stating "in lieu of wedding favors we are making a contribution to ______ charity." Then give a donation to your favorite charity. It will be much more appreciated.
2007-01-13 00:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by 14b32bbdog 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No!! You are already feeding them. This is something that started with the really high end weddings! Having a good time is the most important thing!! After all what are you going to do with that little candle, etc. This started with the bride giving away the wedding cake in little bags or boxes.
2007-01-12 17:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to give guests favors, but it's a very nice gesture and doesn't need to be expensive. My friend passed out Ghiradelli chocolates in little decorated tins. I still have the tin as a nice remembrance.
2007-01-12 17:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you don't have to, but I've never been too one where there weren't any. If you do give favors, give something that goes with the theme of your wedding or something that you both love. At my wedding we gave little personalized boxes of Ferio Roche chocolates. My husband and I love those things.
2007-01-12 17:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jem 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save your money.
We're told it's a nice gesture, and maybe it is. But most of the time it's money wasted. Unless it's edible, most favors end up in the trash before the people get home.
2007-01-12 18:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not have to always give favors out. It is traditional to pass out a memento to mark the day as yours. It can be a simple thank you card, book of matches, bells, napkins, etc. But, to again answer the question it is no.
2007-01-12 17:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. not always, always, but you are thanking them for coming and witnessing your happiness... i suppose if you didn't want to get them anything, you could at the very least put a "thank you for attending our wedding" on their name plates and/or raffle the centerpiece. but i think if i went out of my way to go to a wedding and get that person a gift, and i didn't get any little token... i'd probably be telling everyone about it... but not in a good way. sorry.
2007-01-16 14:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋