I am currently in the proces of adopting a child from China. Recently, there has been a lot of debate regarding international adoption. A lot of people ask why I am adopting from another country when there are kids here that need to be adopted. I feel the system in the US is too hard to deal with and that the adoptive parents do not have as many rights as the birthmother. She can decide to not terminate parental rights at any time. It should be her perrogative, but I don't want to have a failed placement. That's why I've chosen international adoption. What's your opinion?
2007-01-12 17:24:49 · 16 answers · asked by Angela M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My husband does not want to foster. I considered that in the beginning, but respect his decision. Not everybody is cut out to be a foster parent. You have to be really strong in order to let a child in and then out of your life. It's something he can't do.
2007-01-12 17:46:29 · update #1
First off I want to say good luck and that adoption of any kind is great. Also Chinesse babies are adorable!
Now...I am a preschool teacher for under privlaged kids (poor, foster, adopted, and split home). I am a very strong believer in American adoption, when I am ready I am adopting from the US instead of having my own. Untill people are with the system they really don't understand exactly how many babies, toddlers, and children are in America that are in need of love and family. Unfortunatly our system doesn't screen the foster parents great and dont keep up on them great. I have seen MANY children that are in foster homes, not being taken care of well and with very mean foster parents in homes that the children should never be placed in. People think America does alot for ophans in America but in all actuality they don't, they have the mind "get the child in a home no matter what." It is horrible, the first time I seen this I cried and cried and was ready to start adopting, if I would adopt every child I have seen like this I would have tons of children! I really feel that in state or in country adopting is the way to go! You may being giving another child in another country a life better than most kids in that country will ever see, but that's their way of life! Children in America are starving for food and love. Orphanages and foster homes are spilling over of children that need homes. I have researched America's adoption laws and it's not that easy to have the child taken away as you think. The birth mother really has to fight for the child back, because as soon as they are getting rid of their child it is considerd neglect. And the law is that after you have started the adoptiong process the birth mother only has 20 days to start a petition to get coustody back, and is rarly granted this! But as I stated before adoption is great of any kind, I just think people should be giving American children chances!
Even with all of that....I wish you and your husband the best of luck, and best of wishes for your soon-to-be new family! Congrats!
2007-01-12 19:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by softball_whitney_04 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How disgusting!
What on earth would make you think that hopeful adopters should have more rights than the child's mom?
The system is too hard to deal with. HELLO!! It should be because if not, anyone would be and that is not a good thing.
Good chance that children from another country DO have a mother and/or father who wanted that child. Do you have any idea how many children are stolen for profit? They'll tell you they're orphans but how would you have any way of knowing?
I hope you didn't get a child from China. It's sounds like everything is all about you.
Adoption is about finding a home for a child who needs ones not finding a child for a family who wants one. And in your case, you wanted to find the easiest child to get your hands on.
Poor child. And poor family in China who most likely wanted her.
2014-11-10 13:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by 4Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely.
That is one reason I will be adopting from other countries. There is too much heartbreak in American adoption.
And there are so many people helping the American kids, and they live much better then those in other countries. They don't all live well, I agree, but better then other countries.
And, children in ANY country are just as precious and worthy as our own. I hope the adoption of your new child goes wonderfully!
2007-01-13 01:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I think you are doing a very honorable thing by adopting from a foriegn country. With the poverty level in China, that poor child you are adopting would not have a very good life otherwise. Kudos to you.
2007-01-13 03:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I think it is great. I can't say anything else. I would love to do it, but I am too busy making my own right now!
There shouldn't be any question.....you want to adopt a child anywhere on this planet....excellent choice. It doesn't matter where the child comes from.
Have a great experience.
2007-01-13 01:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by gg 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It shouldnt matter what other people tell you, you can adopt a child of any race, children of all race need love, not just an american child, there are alot of children out there in the world that need a good home. Listen to what your heart says, not what anyone else tells you. Good luck with your new family 8-)
2007-01-13 01:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Do whatever you feel is right for your family. I adopted in USA, but international was an option. Children all over the world need a place to be happy and loved.
2007-01-13 01:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by microsvc 5 · 10⤊ 1⤋
my friend adopted a child from russia and it completed their lives and they are as happy as if they had been blessed with child birth and that speaks for itself so if that is what you are after then make the commitment
2007-01-13 01:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by PUFFY 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Adoption in any form is awesome. Congrats on your addition! :)
2007-01-15 04:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gianna 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Any adoption of any child OF ANY CULTURE into a loving home, is fantastic!
2007-01-13 01:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 13⤊ 1⤋