I am a stay at home mom to a year old baby.I have a relative that is always talking about picking my daughter up and taking her places without asking me if its ok with me. I worry that while my daughter is with her something bad will happen. For instance something like she will get kidnapped or something worse will happen. What can I do to make myself better with this situation?
2007-01-12 17:07:06 · 11 answers · asked by megansmom06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Straight up tell them that its not anything personal but you like to keep your child close to you.
2007-01-12 17:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't worry about getting over your worries. You take them as a sign that this set-up isn't right for you right now.
Tell the relative, "You know what - I've realized I'm not comfortable letting her go with other people right now; so maybe if you still want to bring her places when she's older that would be better."
No matter how well intentioned anyone is, there is nobody who cares about your baby's safety as much as you do.
As with all developmental stages, there will come a time when you feel better letting her go with others. That time just isn't now.
2007-01-13 03:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the child's mother, and whether she asks or not, you can say no. If she says they are going to the park, just say, "It's not a good time, but thanks so much for offering". You don't have to defend yourself, or give reasons. Another solution is to just go with them. If you are a stay at home mom with just one baby, it might be nice to get out. Give yourself a break by letting her push the stroller, feed the ice cream, change the diapers, or whatever. Just tag along for your own peace of mind.
You can also let her know that the baby is getting on a "schedule" now, and that you really need some advance notice for these outings from now on.
2007-01-15 21:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the things babies do for us is force us to get a backbone. You just tell the person, NO, my child stays with me. That's what babies prefer anyway. You don't have to tell the person that's what baby's prefer - she'd probably argue the point. Just say it's what you prefer, maybe you're a freak, you can laugh, but it's how things are. And then they are.
Your baby doesn't have to get used to being away from you soon and babies don't like being away from mommy. THat's a crock. Babies evolved to need to be with their moms almost 24/7 and are stressed by separation from mommy usually until age 5 or so. Lots of poor babies are subjected to day care, which is soooo damaging, and they learn to stuff down their hurt and their pain, but they still don't like the separation. They just learn that to get approval from mommy, they have to pretend they love day care and other separations. They don't.
2007-01-13 01:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the intentions of your friend are genuine, Maybe you need to communicate that although she is appreciated for her offer, that, part of that break is putting your mind at ease so you can relieve you're self, from your full time duties,. At times, this, for me was more worrisome. I was also blessed with a daughter, Megan. How we spend the time away from our children is very important for our well-being.
49 percent of most kidnappings fall under the family kidnapping category.
The chance of being kidnapped is small
I was also blessed our daughter Megan.
2007-01-13 03:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by gimmeisme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest in some type of way that you want to go along for the trip let your relative tend to your child as they would if you was not there (tell them i jus came along for "wateva" ur "babysitting") and see how they do maybe that will make you feel a little better. if its your first then your worries are very normal.
2007-01-13 01:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Toy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent, tell your relative no. I have a relative that tried that and I saw the company she was keeping so I told her no everytime she mentioned it, after awhile she quit trying. Good luck.
2007-01-13 08:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by dcforensics51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just this relative that makes you worry?
Your going to have to let go of your daughter soon for her sake. Just as you need time away from her, she needs time away from you. She needs to learn how to adjust to not haveing you there ALL the time.
Good luck!
2007-01-13 01:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kandy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go with them, see that everything is fine and try and think that whenever they take her somewhere. If you dont want them to take her tell them.
2007-01-13 01:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Heather S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about everything that can go wrong. You can control what you think about.
2007-01-13 01:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by acesfourpal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋