at the church she is used to because they have proven 3 times to me now that they have no integrity or sincerity? I am going to give her the option of attending church with her aunt instead.
We rent a house from the church and the rental company is claiming we did not pay the rent for December, we have the proof that we did, but they are still evicting us on Monday. They have done this to two other families that I know of. I absolutely cannot justify sending my daughter to a church that would advocate kicking a pregnant woman, her two children and their father out in the middle of January, even when there is concrete proof that the rent was paid.
How do I broach the subject with her, without going into all the details?
2007-01-12 16:55:07 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i do not attend this church as I am an atheist, she and her sister attend with their grandparents, for the reason stated in answer # 3
2007-01-12 17:03:00 · update #1
I am not really sure she needs to know all of the details. Just explain to her that you have decided it's time to find a new church family. Tell her that her aunt really likes the church she attends and that all of you will be trying it.
If you find that your daughter truly does not like the new church then shop around. Not all churches are suited for all people. Find one that has a quality kids program and really play that up to your daughter. A new church w/ great programming just for her should be a pretty easy sell. If she has friends at the old church maybe she could occasionally invite them along to the new church. I think at age 9 it would be hard for her to understand that God is still good, but the people at the church are sometimes bad. When she's older, if she cares to know, you could try to explain it. Good luck!
2007-01-12 17:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the size of the youth group? and is the youth leader tustworthy?
if so do not punsh the youth for some thing that is an adult problem, but rather goto the youth pastor and ask for the youth's suport. if you have youth that know any thing about how a christian should act then they should be willing to take it before the church and takecare of the problem. do not pull your 9 year old out of church,but rather use her within the church. there were some problems a few years back at my church where the youth heard of something going on that was not christian conduct in the church, we took it before the members and the pastor and the isue was resolved. it only got resolved because the youth stood up for what is right. if this does not work then you need to take it to court and get your money back, if they say you did not pay, but have proof then they are stealing.
2007-01-12 17:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain you don't feel this is the church to belong to anymore. She is 9. If she knows you rent from the church and you are being kicked out then she would be clever enough to put 2 and 2 together. I would like to congratulate you for allowing your child to go to church when you are an atheist and not pushing your views on her and allowing her to make up her own mind. Send her with her Aunt and see how she feels about the church. If she really does not like it (give it a month) then contemplate letting her go back to her old church. But I am with you. If you have proof they should not be able to kick you out. Is it too late to take legal action?
2007-01-12 17:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum! That's a tough one. I am so sorry that this is happening to your family. You could just tell her that you are not comfortable with some things that certain people in the church have done and you would rather her go to church with her aunt for now. If she asks questions just tell her that you would rather not talk about it right now. You won't be lying to her or causing her to think badly of the people in the church who haven't done anything wrong. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 17:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that the church just isnt right for your family anymore, so you're going to find one that is. Let her have a say in the process of finding a new place.
And as for you being evicted, that's illegal. Just because they're a church doesn't put them above the law. If you don't have money to fight it, consider gathering the other families this has been done to, and collectively going to the media. They shouldn't get away with it.
2007-01-12 17:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just tell her why. Be truthful with her. Explain to her your reasons for not wanting her to go there. I think that you all should talk to a lawyer about this. If you have the proof that you paid the rent, take it to a lawyer and show them. Ask them what you all should do. What they are doing isn't legal. I am sorry that you are having to go through this, esp. being pregnant. Stress isn't good for you. I hope that things work out for you and your family.
2007-01-12 17:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assuming that this is a Christian church and that you are Christian. In that case, deal with the situation honestly and spiritually as well, and tell your daughter that your family won't be attending the church any longer because they are not acting in a Christ-like manner with their business dealings and are not treating people in the way that Christians ought to treat people, so you will find a church that actually lives up to the principles that it teaches.
2007-01-12 17:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just let her be the own judge of where she goes to Church. It's better for her to go to a church she feels comfortable at. You can't stop her, just because you don't like the people there.
If you have to tell her to change churches, you just tell her. There's no easy way to say it.
2007-01-12 22:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is so wrong with this, first off in order to get evicted they would have to file with the City Marshall (no matter where u live) AND it you would have to go to court, upon showing the court your proof it will be dismissed. They cannot just evict you there are laws against that.
2007-01-12 18:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell her what the problem is and she may understand!! I know its hard but she will get over it. Do what u got 2 do as a mother. There is always a new and better church 2 go 2. God know it. And i know he do
2007-01-12 17:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋