I wasn't a good kid: shoplifting, burglary, drugs, drinking, unprotected sex, ...
My kids seem too good to be true. Anywhere from pretty good to fantastic behavior from my adolescents. I keep warning them about bad behavior like watch out for your friends shoplifting when you go to the store together. It's not like their friends are bad kids, either.
2007-01-12 16:26:03 · 10 answers · asked by Hank Hill 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I feel like I'm being distrusting and overly protective.
2007-01-12 16:32:43 · update #1
Sounds like you're trying to protect them and keep them from making the same mistakes you made. Unless they're putting up a great front for mom, sounds like you're doing a great job!
2007-01-12 16:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think wanting to warn your children about things you know can cause problems for them and their lives is a positive thing. I also believe that sometimes telling them to watch out for their friends may give them the impression that you do not like their friends and that means in essence you do not trust them and their choices.
Honestly i think the best thing to do is to sit them down and talk. I am a big fan of open communication and believe it can help avoid stressful situations in the future and teaches you and your family to deal with things in an appropriate manner......Tell your kids that your life was tough and you did some things you are not proud of.Tell them that you have not had those problems any longer and that it is in the past.Tell them that because of your experiences you have first hand knowledge of the consequences of certain behaviors and the effects that can have on your life.Tell them you love them so much and want to protect them but that sometimes it means that you want them about things that they may not know why. Tell about those things. Ask them what THEY think the consequences would be. Make sure they know why these things are not good things to do....They will remember not to do them or hang out with those who do them if they can remember their own thoughts about it. Tell them you love them and teach them and it is your way of trying to protect them.Tell then you trust them but that sometimes things happen.Tell them that they have choices no matter what and though you cannot control them all the time that you at least want them to know what is inappropriate behavior that can ruin things for you or can make obtaining their dreams may not be possible if they choose to act on certain behaviors.it only takes one time to get caught stealing to have a record etc.You are a good mother and love your children.Let them know that.
2007-01-12 16:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want them to learn from your mistakes with out telling them what you did because you do not want to give then ideas.
I do the same thing. I have done somethings in my past that i would never want my daughter to do. I warn her all the time to be care in this area or that area. Its just being a good parents.
Keep it up
2007-01-12 16:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't want them to make the same mistakes you did. Also remember that they are going to make mistakes of their own. I was also "the bad seed" and feel that I have a leg up on what's going on with my children. There isn't much they can get past me! As much as I try to steer them away from all the bad stuff, I understand that they are still going to do things that I don't approve of. All we can do is try our hardest to protect our children and make them good people. Good luck!
2007-01-12 21:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by GraceSlickChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you simply don't want them to make the same mistakes as you. Try to trust them though. They are almost adults and are going to have to live their own lives soon and learn from their mistakes just like you did
2007-01-12 17:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not at that point yet with raising kids....mine is 11 months old! However, I think I would say the exact same thing. That is good if they feel they can trust you.
2007-01-12 16:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are doing a good job. You are protecting them and trying to show them right from wrong.
2007-01-12 16:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got lucky.....but make sure they know YOU know the old tricks!
I did it---had 3 boys----not ONCE did I bail them out...
Keep tabs on them.....even good kids get a wild hair up,their butt at times!
2007-01-12 16:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whatever you have been doing seems to work. mabye i can email you when my girls a teenager so shes an angel too. Your doign a good job dong jinx it.
2007-01-13 16:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should tell them to hang out with bad kids. What exactly are you asking?
2007-01-12 16:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Trublood 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋