What should you do when your kid went through a bad phase, you had to punish her, she changed but thinks you were too harsh. Now she's a great kid you are proud of, but extremely resentful. Polite but distant, cold though respectful. Should we reward her good points and show love? Should we try to break this apparently endless ice?
2007-01-12 16:20:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a 14 year old daughter, that we went through the same thing with. Boy was she cold as ice. Its called a "Guilt Trip" . It will pass, don't let it get to you too much. She knows you love her deep down, and she knows she did wrong. Definitely reward her good points, and show her a ton of love. She will come around soon enough. It took our daughter about 3 months to finally quit the "Guilt Trip" and being cold as ice towards us. I know it really bothers you obviously you posted it on here, but ride it out, I promise she will come around. And good for you for caring about her. A lot of parents don't give a care what there kids do or how they feel.
2007-01-12 16:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you did what good parents are suppose to do. You got your child to behave in a respectful manor. Her acting resentful could very well be a silly mind game. In a few years she'll realize she is a better person because of you.
2007-01-13 00:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reward her good points and show love and hope that in time you can break through the ice.
2007-01-13 00:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them "You are sorry" for being harsh because what ever it was is still with them, there is nothing wrong with saying sorry, only the stubborn ones and the ones with to much pride don't say sorry but then remind them of how great they turned out too
2007-01-13 00:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to break the ice, no matter what you have to do. Talk to her, take her out to a restaurant, just the two of you. Open up to her, but do whatever you have to do. But never, ever, give up on your child.
2007-01-13 00:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by lucy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug and tell her how much you love her and how sorry you feel because of the strain between the 2 of you. Ask her that you can do to make her feel better about your relationship. Most importantly listen and acknowledge her feelings.
2007-01-13 00:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess. 14, 15, or 16. Right? They're all like that. I would put them into a chemically induced coma until they've passed puberty, but hey, thats me.
2007-01-13 00:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older she gets, she'll realize it was for her own good.
You're just trying to be a good parent, so just keep doing what you're doing. But remind her, that you will always love her, no matter what.
2007-01-13 00:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by shaigrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always keep reaching out to your child. Maybe she could use someone to talk to about this. I recommend counseling to help her work through it.
2007-01-13 00:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them to the Zoo
2007-01-13 00:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by freshlybakedj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋