I was aquantaces with a boy from school. I finnaly called him up, after a vey, very long time, and I told him I liked him. He said that we should be friends, which is good, but now he's just ignoring me, and has been for a few months. Every time I start to talk to him, he avoids eye contact, and walks away. What do I do? Did I do something wrong? HELP!!!!!
2007-01-12 15:50:26 · 30 answers · asked by mysterious girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The bad news is, he's just not that in to you.
The good news is that you have just learned a very valuable lesson in opportunity cost. Opportunity cost simply means you can't have it both ways. For instance, you can't have both the safety of insulation from rejection and the opportunity to share in something great. You traded security and at first it may seem like you're worse off for trying, but that is where you would be wrong. By putting yourself out there, you found that this guy simply isn't the one. After a brief recovery, you have purchased the opportunity to select someone who will be more receptive (which may never have happened at all if you had spent your life pining away for this dude that doesn't have enough sense to appreciate you).
You did nothing wrong here. I want to congratulate you for being strong enough within your own person to put yourself out there. That takes guts and a lot of girls your age will never have it. I'd also like to offer you a little perspective...
I have a 19 year old young lady working for me. She's been on my staff since she was 17. She's pretty, petite, and everything that most girls her age would like to be. Nevertheless, her boyfriend is a total loser that treats her really bad (and he's really ugly). So was the last one. My point is, boys from 13 to 26 or so tend to be superficial, self centered jerks who aren't worthy of your true heart.
I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't follow your crushes, quite the opposite. But I would encourage you to do so with a lighter touch. You're only young once. It will pass you by before you know it. You won't really appreciate the extent to which your world is open to (and full of) potential until you are 20 years older with kids of your own that are approaching your age today. Continue to exercise your opportunities, including those that move you away from boys like this one who simply don't have enough life experience to understand what an amazing thing they are passing up. By the time he's smart enough to comprehend his unrealized opportunity, you'll probably be with someone who will appreciate what he's got.
2007-01-12 16:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might not find you very attractive. Or he might think your desperate and annoying. Most of the time when a girl tells a guy she likes him he at least keeps in contact with her so if hes acting like this take a hint and find a guy that actually likes you for you. And for the record you did nothing wrong its him that needs help so don't sweat yourself over some guy who acts likes hes still in grade 5.
Best wishes, Keisha
2007-01-12 23:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a text or something a little less forward like say something like how have you been? I dont ever talk to you anymore. If its been months, he could be a lil more mature about it and be friendly with you. You did nothing wrong, u were really brave, but he is just being a jerk. Just somehow ask him whatsup and if u guys are still cool.
2007-01-12 23:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that its either he is shy and feels bad for you or he is just a jerk.
He might be shy and might feel bad for you that u liked him but he didnt like you back. He might feel awkward and u have to understand that this is possible. I felt the same when my ex-bf told me he still liked me after months and wanted to get back toghter.. so i didnt talk to him for a while.
Or
He might be a jerk who just doesnt care about you and find u annoying. There are guys like that, alhtough if he was this type, you would know iit, u just wont want to admit it
2007-01-12 23:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u hve not done anything wrong. But i would only like to tell that accept that he have no feeling for u & It will be better for u to remain allof from him so both of u will get time to get new friendship with pure feeling in it . It may be also he might also feeling guilty & sad to reject ur offer. so must be avoid u . just give him time.
2007-01-12 23:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by dilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he just doesn't know how to act around you because he doesn't want to make it seem like he likes you since he doesn't. It happens. Move on. It sounds hard but you will eventually.
2007-01-12 23:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dido 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just found it very awkward for a girl telling the guy straight forward... because it is usually better for the guy to make the first move... or maybe hes thinking about it and he just cant look at you because hes confused...or maybe hes not interested yet
2007-01-12 23:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by pinkblackangelsmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u r not wrong u have told ur feelings and u also try to ignore him for few days and not caring for him then it automatically works. And i have tried it and it worked. so all the best.............
2007-01-13 00:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's embarassed by the attention. I would just go back to acting like you used to, hang in there, and when he feels like you're not still pursuing him, he'll probably come around.
2007-01-12 23:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested. That's not your fault, but it is a fact. The only thing you have done wrong is not get the hint already. Cheer up, can't win them all.
2007-01-12 23:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋