2007-01-12 15:47:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't! You can't ask for gifts period. The point of inviting people to your wedding is to celebrate with you, not to give gifts.
That being said, you can let your parents and bridal party know that if anyone asks they should say...
"So and so would really like to have a wonderful honeymoon (or so and so is saving for a new home), so the gift of money would be perfectly acceptable (would be well received)."
Register just in case, and include on your registry that gift cards would be well received.
2007-01-12 15:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Ok, Ok...people love to tell you this is bad etiquette and is rude but come on, we live in the year 2007. The book of etiquette has changed imensely over the years and people just need to grow up. It pretty much goes without saying that if you are invited to a wedding you will be bringing a gift or card. If not then I would consider this rude and cheap. I would not feel offended at all if soneone were to suggest no gifts and a money tree or wishing well instead. Here are two poems I came across that can assist you a little in being polite:
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have the kettles, the toasters, the linen
All we lack now is a house to put it in.
If you would like to give us a gift,
We know of something that would give us a lift
Please donate your love to our own little 'Well'
How grateful we'd be, we just cannot tell.
To save you from looking, shopping, or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you don’t mind trying.
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Your wishes will be used to find a home of our own
Which we will have you to thank, when our family has grown
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!
Just remember it's your wedding, not anyone elses. Do what you want and what you feel comfortable with...and Congrats!
2007-01-13 11:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Country Girl for Life 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
My sister and fiance did not register anywhere. This has forced people to ask what they would like instead of just going to the registry and which point the person answering (either themselves or a family member or close friend) can just say that they don't really know what the will need so they would prefer money or gift cards.
2007-01-12 16:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no polite way to do this; it is simply not done. It would be rude and tacky. Guests are not obligated to give a gift; most do so because they want to give something to the couple to help start out their life together. If you haven't enough money to pay for the wedding, honeymoon, or house, that is yours alone to deal with, not to put on your wedding guests.
2007-01-12 21:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Create a website for your wedding...even a myspace page or a piczo site, both free, would work. I'd go with piczo, you could put up pictures of both of you, and the engagement party and bridal shower and all that stuff...Put the info about where you're registered and/or a request that any gifts be monetary on the website (but obviously not in six inch high blinking red letters :-) and not in the invitation. It's never polite to mention gifts (or tell where you've registered) on your invitation.
2007-01-12 15:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Judi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry but I have to agree. It is in very poor taste to request money as a wedding gift.
If you are a young couple just starting out. You will probably get money anyways. Guest at weddings that I have attended more so than not, give money to young couples.
2007-01-12 18:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by AngelWings 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I was invited to a wedding, I saw that underneath the part that told where the bride was registered, it said, "Money tree available." That meant there was a little tree on the reception table where guests could put checks in envelopes instead of buying gifts. It was helpful to me and didn't seem tacky.
2007-01-12 16:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Curious 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this is a frequent asked question, and the answer still is you can not , A gift is just that, unless some one says that they want to give you cash, you can tell family or any one that may be asked that you want cash but that is all and they can pass that along. otherwise accept what you guests give you with good grace and a thank you
2007-01-12 17:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is not ANY polite way to word an extremely RUDE request. Please do not put ANY sort of gift request in your invitations-- polite couples NEVER mention gifts. Enough people will gift you money without you stooping so LOW as to mention a request for it.
(This is not old-fashioned etiquette. It is modern etiquette. It always has been and always will be RUDE to request gifts, especially gifts of money.)
2007-01-13 00:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your mother, your future mother in law and maid of honor are suppose to spread the word what type of gifts you two need. Do not, I repeat, do not put this information on any invitaitons at all. This is a big wedding no-no.
My fiance and I have a Honeymoon Registry and my mom and maid of honor have spread the word and now all we have to pay for is our plane tickets.
2007-01-12 15:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Know_it_all 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋