I recently got back in touch with a guy from my past that I am deeply in love with, always have been. He wants us to be a couple but its been a while since I saw him and I gained a lot of weight. I dont want to see him until I lose weight because I want to be comfortable around him. What should I do, should i just really focus on getting fit, not just for him but period. I figure i can be back to normal weight in like 5 mos, is that too long for someone to wait.
2007-01-12 15:43:19 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are really in love with him, don't wait. Tell him that you have gained a few pounds and would like to lose it before he saw you again. Be honest with this guy. You may not have this chance again. Good luck.
2007-01-12 15:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok a lot of people on here are going to tell you that your being too vain, and if he doesnt accept you for who you are then hes not worth it. But i understand where your coming from, and of course you want to be comfortable around him. If i were you id start losing now, and at the same time keep in close touch with him over phone, email, etc. Don't let him slip away just because your not comfortable seeing him just yet. Also you dont have to wait until your AT the weight you want to be to see him, chances are he wont notice the 10 or 15 lbs you have left to lose so that cuts your time down also. Best of luck!!
2007-01-12 15:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with yourself about something, do you want him to see you as you are or what you want him to see you as, it seems like you want to pull the weight off in one way to impress and him and make him have this impression of you in a different way, that might backfire on you if you are careful. It has been known to happen. If you want an honest opinion, it would be go as yourself and hope after all that time of not seeing him that he will accept you for who you are now and not the person he saw the last time that you and him were together. You should be comfortable around someone for who you are not just in a physical since but a mental since. If he is any guy to start with he will accept you for who you are and nothing else. It should not matter how much you weight or what kind of hair style you have. Imagine might something in which it is but it should be the whole reason, some of your reasoning should come from with inside and not necessarily out.
2007-01-12 15:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he wait 5 months?
I feel that that is a bit too long, and if he wants u two to be a couple, he should get over the fact that you gained a lot of weight... maybe u could go to the gym with him (as friends if u wish) and help him achieve ur goal (losing weight) and then go as a couple?
2007-01-12 15:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 5 months is kind of long since he already waited to meet u again. but if he really loves u for who u are then he would accept u the way u are. but if u still feel self conscience then u should start dieting and getting fit from now. just remember sometimes people wait too long and they dont want to wait any more.
2007-01-14 02:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much weight did you gain? it might scare him to wait that long like what is her problem but I mean hey, its a good motivation to lose weight. At the same time you never know what HE looks like--he could have gained weight, gotten a lot of pimples, etc. Maybe work out and eat healthy for like 2 months hardcore and then meet him....if he really likes you he would like you no matter what you look like....good luck
2007-01-12 15:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't wait. Yes, you should contunue to lose the weight for yourself and for him but there's no telling if he'll wait that long. If he truly loves you, he'll understand and still love you even if you've gained some weight. And as long as he knows you're working toeard losing it, im sure he'll just be happy to be with you again. Plus, sho knows, maybe he's gained some weight also huh?...Ya never know...don't make the poor guy wait...both of you will just be miserable for 5 months...trust him...im sure it will work out.
2007-01-12 15:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes 5 months is very long! If you want to feel more confident with yourself, start working out now, you will drop weight each week... and remember he should love ya for who you are not for how much you weigh! I would just meet up with him and rekindle that love you have... let him know about your goals of workin out. And remember just because you may have an extra couple of pounds doenst mean that you aren't still pretty--its all about how you keep yourself and dress...good luck to you!
2007-01-12 15:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have any clue why you want him to wait so long? If the two of you are truly in love, you could be together and he could support you in your weight loss regimen.
We all would like to look perfect for our men, but asking them to wait 5 months is like kissing them good-bye. See him, and let him see the healthy diet and exercise program you have begun.
2007-01-12 15:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is too long for a guy to wait. Who knows if he might move right along to another girl. He should be comfortable with however you look. Or at least tell him.
2007-01-12 15:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋