A very dear friend of mine started seeing her brother's friend secretly 6 years ago when they were both in between jobs. She said it was quite intense and they got very intimate. It broke off when the chap went to work abroad. She says he wanted to bring it out into the open but she wasn't sure she was ready.
He went away and they didn't speak or see in between. She said she thinks about him all the time but just can't make the next step. She said she contacted him early last year and the whole physical thing started again. He seems to like her enough as she describes him as gentle, considerate, an unbelieveable lover and attentive.
I feel she is playing with his feelings and have told her so. I don't understand what is the stumbling block is? She says she would love to be with him but feels her brother would feel uncomfortable. Any guys out there been in the situation, do you get over it if your sister dates one of your mates? Or should she steer clear?
2007-01-12 15:33:57 · 5 answers · asked by The Cat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't help who you love but is it love? If it is he should firstly speak with her saying that he wants to make a proper go of it then speak with her brother saying that he is dating the sister. The brother may be upset but if he is a man and knows the guy has a good heart he'll get over it.
2007-01-12 18:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is putting her brothers feelings before her own!!! You should put your own feelings first!!! Why is she so scared to tell her brother? Thats the stumbling block!!!! As for the other guy getting played that is partly his fault as he is allowing her to play him!!! She either does not love this guy enough to tell her brother or their is a reason why she is not telling her brother!!! What ever you do do not get envolved!!! Just be there for her to pick up the pieces if it all falls apart.
2007-01-13 03:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by cranberry queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is her brother dominating he cannot stop her unless he knows more about the man why dont you ask your freind what he thinks of this man . and say would he be good enough for a brotherinlaw that should get a reply one way or the other without letting on about the relationship previous.
2007-01-13 04:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should steer clear of this guy. Brothers do not like their sisters dating their friends, it's like some unwritten rule.
2007-01-12 23:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by buffeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she keep it a secret for so long, it doesn't seem right to me, your instinct may be correct she could be playing with his feelings, in which case she's well out of order and He needs to know !!
2007-01-16 19:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋