Me (atheist) and my Christian fiancé always are told that we shouldn't get married, because according to Christians we are 'unevenly yoked'.
My girlfriend and me both agree on the fact that neither of us is able to know the full truth about the 'god/no god' question. Which means our future children will be very open minded to all possibilities.
So, how can the Bible say that 'unevenly yoked' is a bad thing? Is it really bad to learn from other peoples experiences? Does the Bible have such little faith in its followers faiths, that those same followers should avoid non-believers like the plague?
(If you are gonna answer this with "your fiancé is not a true Christian", please remember that judging is not your job. And if you judge another Christian on his or her faith, that makes you by definition not a true Christian)
2007-01-12 15:32:22 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your fiance sounds really nice. I'm a Wiccan and I had to stop dating Christian men a long time ago because they kept trying to convert me. (Strangely, they didn't seem to have a problem with having sex with me....? Hmmm.)
I think that "unequally yoked" stuff is nonsense. Elsewhere, I think Paul says that it's good to have a non-Christian spouse because you'll sort of pull 'em into heaven with you. Makes sense to me. As long as you guys understand each other and can come to an agreement about how to raise any kids and you can handle the tense holidays with in-laws, then why not? You're luckier than the rest of us - 50% divorce rate and rising, even for Christian couples!! o_O
2007-01-12 18:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Aeryn Whitley 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The central idea behind "being yoked" involves the direction, the goals and the forces at work in the lives affected. These are very different for a committed Christian, since such a Christian is first yoked with Christ (Matthew 11:28 ff). You and He are pulling in different directions, which will eventually create tensions in your girlfriend's life.
As He's at work in her life to refine her character and make her His child of virtue and inner beauty, will you be able to accept the changes to purify your relationship she'll eventually require you to?
2007-01-13 00:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance may indeed be a true christian, yet the problem with marrying unbelievers is that the unbelieving partner may lead the chrstian into sin. perhaps by pressuring them not to go to church, or by breaking the sabbath, and many many many other things.
Also, you will never know the full truth of everything , because if you did, you would be God. What excuse is open mindedness if the Bible says its wrong? who cares if you dont know everything... anyway, if I were your fiancee, i would be worried that the children may grow uop not knowing the Lord... that should be cause of concern enough.
You dont serve God, You serve darkness. your christian fiance serves Christ. You will be a house divided. You either serve the Lord or you dont. no middle ground.
If you do get married, I hope what I say will not occur. However, I know christians married to unbelievers, and it is very hard for them.
Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved.
2007-01-12 23:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Proverbs 1:7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I know is that it is extremely unwise to make your decision to marry a certain person based on other people's opinions.
You and your fiance will have to live together, manage a household, share almost everything in your lives with each other. Do the two of you believe that this relationship is the best possible match? Are you committed to making it work? If so, get married.
Some people need to share the same religious beliefs with their partner, other people need to make approximately the same salary, others need to like the same TV shows, some people must marry someone of the same political party. If you and your fiance are comfortable with having different religous beliefs then it is fine.
2007-01-12 23:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by ÜFÖ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two agree that you are unsure of your beliefs, making you equally yoked in that respect. What concerns me is about the the traditions and rituals that families seem to inherit from the generations before. Is your girlfriend going to practice any religious holidays like Christmas? Are you going to be able to allow your wife to teach your children about God or is it going to cause confusion with the kids. What about your families? Are they going to get along or disaprove of the choice you are making? You both may be very liberal thinkers now, but believe me, as life changes so do your perceptions of life change also.
2007-01-12 23:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am seeking for all the Truth. The lord says Ask and receive, seek and find knock and the door will open. I keep Herring the lord say keep seeking. Been 5 yrs.
2007-01-12 23:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always loved the double-yoked eggs no really I think what it is saying is that you will not have things in common.However I pray your marriage will be blessed with true happiness and love.
2007-01-12 23:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for a cult to work they have to oppose those that think differently. Its simply bussiness more then belief.
2007-01-12 23:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Beaverscanttalk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋