this guy-tyler i absolutely LOVE him. he is cute and PERFECT hes smart and loved my many ppl including adults because he's a good kid and he tries his best for everything. he gives me compliments, smiles, and talks to me alot, and makes me laugh, he's also not perverted/always talking about sex. EVERYTIME i look at him, i smile sometimes not knowing it. it just happens. no other guys i think are cute/that i like, makes me so happy in my life just to look at them. he told me he loves me.ive only known him for 4 days! and i dont see him much my problem is-
1.is it wrong for us go out?he's 17-sophmore and im 14-8th grader
2. i looked at his myspace and alot of girls sent him comments saying I LOVE YOU.now that confuses me because i dunno if he likes me or not. my eyes teared because i love him so much and i thot he felt the same way.so that means the way he is around me, he is like that around other girls right?how do i know if he REALLY does love me?anyOTHER TRICKYsigns to look for??
2007-01-12 15:32:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look amber.
you're [almost] in high school. soon, you'll go to college, and never see many of the ppl in ur life again. take the risk
trust me, you do NOT want to leave regrets in ur high school years. ask him out. he sounds awesome. :P much like great bf material. ask him out and see what happens. you should not regret not having the guts to ask him out once you're in college.
:P
2007-01-13 13:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...so your asking is it a big deal about you being 14 and him 17? In the nicest way, it is a very big deal. At 14 you should not be interested in the same things a 17 year old boy is interested in. Though he doesn't always talk about sex doesn't mean he isn't always thinking about sex. I know from where you stand this is not real easy to see or understand but it is true. Evenfor the nice guys. It's just a hormonal thing a change their body is going through...
Next, most likely the reason you see a lot of girls on his MySpace page leaving him "I love you" messages is because he is so charming and cute. You don't believe your the only one who has your eye on him, now do you? And if you see a lot of these messages they should be reg flags to you, that he spreads his love around and likes the attention of many girls. Not someone you really want to have a hard core crush on and especially not someone you want fall in love with. These boys equal heartbreak for a teenage girl.
I understand that you feel like you love him only after 4 days but you will have this same feelings many more times in the next couple of years. And typically when you feel that much that fast you get blinded by your heart and make bad choices. Just try to slow down a bit...
Good luck!
2007-01-12 23:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay. Her's how I see it...
1) You have only known him for four days.
Can you really say you love someone after that short period of time? I don't think he's sincere.
2)There are a lot of girls who love him.
Either that means he has a lots of friends/fans or it means he's a HUGE player. Just be warned that he sounds like a guy that swaps girls like clothes.
3) 3 yr. age difference.
Older players are always trying to pick up younger girls. The think the "innocent ones" are easiest to "get some" from.
Okay... her's some things to test if his "love" is true...
1) say you want to take things slow. See if he accepts that or trys to talk you out of it.
2) ask him about his ex girlfriends. Who he's dated shows alot about his character. If he doesn't answer you and instead talks about how, "ur the only girl for him." cut him loose
3) talk to adults you trust. If the whole situation sounds sketchy, they'll tell you
HOPE THAT HELPS!!!!!
2007-01-12 23:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, you know this guy for just 4 days! This time is not enough for judging any person. The love of which you are talking about is called 'puppy love'. Wait for sometime, before advancing. Try to figure out his feelings about you. Just saying "oh I love you, I love you so much!" is not a sign of true love. It may even happen that he leave you just because he finds some girl better than you. So wait patiently. Be his friend, but don't go beyond this, atleast I'll suggest so...
2007-01-12 23:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by TG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 - 14 is a huge age difference at 14; it will make no difference in 6 years, but today it's huge.
you should be cool, he doesn't love you, he may think he does, but not after 4 days. also you need to know that any man can act great for 4 days, how will he be acting in 4 years?
just take it easy, stay in safe situations, don't allow yourself to get into sexual situations with him, or the temptation. he probably already knows his way around a girl...
also, these other girls probably see in him the same qualities you see in him. they may have physical relations with him, maybe he's not a player but a ladies man?
2007-01-12 23:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by bl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong for a 17 year old to be dating a 14 year old, just so long as he can respect how far you're willing to go sexually. It sounds like you're really hung-up on this guy, so just let me remind that that you don't have to give in and do things you aren't ready for to get someone to like you.
In this day and age, I think it's acceptable for girls to ask guys out. Perhaps you should spend time with him outside of school and just get to know him and give him a chance to get to know you. Some cheesy moves you can pull is to go to a scary movie and when something frightening happens, hold his arm or his hand. I really don't know what that will prove, but I'm sure it'll make you feel good lol.
After spending some time with him, if you feel something for him and he seems interested, but still won't make the first move, tell him how you feel and ask him if he shares the same feelings. I know it's scary to be up-front because you're afraid of a negative answer. But in the long-run, it's better to know now than to be hurt everytime one of his friends says "I love you," or doubting yourself and your self-esteem.
2007-01-12 23:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Android 18 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know were you are coming from except vice versa if you love him go for it but give the relationship some time if not it will only leave heart ache tust me also age does not mater also if you realy want to know if someone loves you, you can tell it in there eyes and the way they act around you like he would stare at you for awhiletrying for you not to notice it to als about the myspace dont worry about it he may not even know the other girls.All of this comes from me and my friends past exoeriences trust us
2007-01-12 23:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Carlos A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say the same thing to the 14 year old boys asking similar questions... Dude, you're 14 years old! Don't worry so much about it! You have the rest of your life to fall in love! In my opinion the age difference is too great.
2007-01-12 23:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Scottee25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty good signs that he doesn't love you:
1) you said you've known him for four days? That's a big one
2) He's 17. He loves tappin that a$$ and that's about it.
3) He's a guy. We all lie, we've all been there and said it before to try and nail a chick.
Decent signs that he does love you:
None.
2007-01-12 23:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by mjcalohan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he told you he loves you? You have a major crush on a guy, who may not even feel the same way about you. Your best bet is to forget this crush, and find somebody your own age. I hate to be so blunt, but you are living a fantasy about this guy. Keep it real.
2007-01-12 23:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋