Hey everyone, just needed some advice. My bf and i broke up today due 2 one of his female friends that he calls a 'best friend". She says things about me 2 him and he comes back and tells me about it. Well, a few weeks ago she said 2 him " You should be with me, not her." and recently was giving her daughter a b-day party and told him " I want you at the party, and dont show up with ur gf , I dont like her." Everytime I ask him about her all he says is "I'll handle it." To me, I would like 2 what exactly is I'll handle it? Then today she calls and I answered his phone, told her she wasn't around, you know very polite. Well the girl has her best friend call to speak to him and her best friend asks to speak to me. He hands me the phone and she starts going off. I told her very politely that i wasnt cursing at her & she kept going so i called her a few names and hung up. So I tell him its me or her. Point of the story, we broke up & now he talks 2 his "best friend" again. What u think??
2007-01-12 15:26:55 · 20 answers · asked by Beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you just rid yourself of someone you didnt need anyway. good riddance I would say and good luck to him if he chooses to be with such a bag.
2007-01-12 15:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Magz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god... he chose his friend over you?
I think that this best friend of his is a b*tch, to be honest. She has absolutely NO right to tell him he should be with her instead! That's completely crossing the line. And saying she wanted him at the party but he can't bring you! That's beyond rude.
Your ex-boyfriend obviously has some issues. If he can allow this best friend to talk about you that way, he really needs to sort out his priorities.
I can't believe you would have to go through this. It's just so ridiculous. That b*tch has no reason to dislike you, besides the obvious fact that she wants him for herself. You should have told her straight off that you're dating him, she's just his friend, and she should not dare try to cross that line (which she obviously tried to do).
I don't know what you should do now... if you want your boyfriend back, you should talk to him and apologize for giving him such a difficult choice (choosing outright between you or her), but you have a serious problem with this best friend of his attempting to become more than friends. Point out the evidence to him. Don't let him just say he'll handle it - ask him what he plans to do.
EDITED TO ADD: If you want to, could you please email me when everything's over and done? I'd like to know what happens with this jerk. Good luck, and thanks. :)
2007-01-12 15:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he cared for her. That doesnt mean that he didnt care for you it just seems that he lhas stronger feelings for her than you. The only thing you can do is move on, and if you really love him and think he loves you wait a week or two and see if he comes around if not find your own 'best friend' Good Luck!
2007-01-12 15:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by sapphireblue327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he likes her and that there is something going on and that he did not want u to know and that if he loves u and there is nothing going on then he would tell her right in front of u that he love u and that is it that they are friends and thats all i think that u did the right thing and dont go back to him u are better then that they think that we wont find things out like this but we do and they think that we have stuped on are heads but we dont
2007-01-12 15:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think his "best friend" is more than just a friend. if you're his girlfriend and he cares about you and your relationship, he would put you first. he would stand up for you. she acts jealous because she is interested in him romantically. i was dating a guy for months who spent a lot of time with a "female friend." a few days after we broke up, i found out they had been together (physically) for awhile. bottom line--you're better off without him. find someone who truly cares about you.
2007-01-12 15:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by dmmed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes DEFINITELY not worth the sweat, I mean, what a freakin loser he is... he wants to be with somebody who is so drama involved.If he cared, he would have tried to settle things with her without ending it with you. I'm sure that he will come around when she barks at some other girls around him and hes sick of it...make sure you DONT take his *** back. there are plenty of fish in the sea! good luck.
2007-01-12 15:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your instincts....if they tell you something was going on, something probably was.
Find someone more deserving that will view YOU as his girlfriend AND his best friend and have a lot more respect for you than this dude and his drama lovin friends.
2007-01-12 15:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a relationship that u dont know about, I mean, guys are assholes, i know this first hand, dont stick around for that bs, you can find someone better easily girl
2007-01-12 15:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. He's more concerned about his relationship with her than he is about standing up for you. If he cared about you and didn't want to sleep with his best friend, he would put her in her place when she starts bad mouthing you.
2007-01-12 15:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Thor 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In simple
Boy friend is time pass and bank in need but Best friend is for life time and he is partner in every situation.
2007-01-12 15:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by ADNAN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋