Im about to start dating this girl, and im a lot worried about our first night together.
Its not that i dont want to have sex, its just that my first time (and only time since) went very bad, and im really nervous.
Im not too knowledgable and am worried ill be pathetic. She (i assume) will be more at ease about it. And id hate to start our relationship on a bad note.
I actually want to put it off for a while, till i get very comfortable with her, but i get the impression she will just expect it to happen soon in relationship.
What do i say? I mean a guy who wants to hold off from sex for a while, that cant make her feel good. I dont want it to get awkward, like me avoiding staying at each others house and that.
2007-01-12 15:22:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You haven't dated yet and you're worried about sex ???
I think I'd worry about the date first and the sex LATER on down the road, if the road is even there...
2007-01-12 15:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad experiences happen to a lot of people and sometimes it can put us in a position of what we should do and what kind of feelings come with it. Just because you have had one bad experience does not mean that you will have another. If you feel comfortable waiting then that is what you should do until you feel ready. If she brings it up and wants to then tell her why you feel it is not the right time and that once you get to know her that maybe you and her can talk about later on, and figure out then if it is right or if you and her should wait awhile, It sounds as if she is understanding and will be open to suggestions, if not then just do the best you can. You know what you can and can't handle and you know what you want to do. If she knows how you feel maybe it will work out that she will wait too, but you won't know until you try to talk to your girl. She will appreciate your honesty.
2007-01-12 23:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are safe. Women LOVE men who don't want to rush it.
If she asks, just tell her you are waiting for the perfect girl and so far, you believe she is that special someone.
By telling her that, when the day arrives that the two of you have sex, it will be really a hot experience for her. This turns women on. Being able to GET the careful male.
I promise. It will turn her on. By the time the actual sex act occurs, you won't be ABLE to screw it up. All she'll know, is how hot the whole experience is. She'll walk away satisfied. I can guarantee it.
TRUST ME>>>>>>Experience.
2007-01-12 23:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there were more guys like you, wanting to wait. Don't do it until you feel comfortable, because if you go ahead and you are not ready, it'll probably be bad. If she really cares and wants to be with you, she'll wait. Just let it happen naturally. Don't plan it. You'll know. Like I said, if she truly wants to be with you and really cares, she'll wait. You shouldn't have sex in the very beginning anyways. You should wait till you know eachother better and are in love. That's what I think.
2007-01-12 23:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women want intimacy, they don't care if the act is porn-star quality or not, as long as it is meaningful. Even though your girlfriend seems more comfortable, she might be just as inexperienced as you. What she wants, is for you to look in her eyes, rub her hair, and tell her she is the most beautiful girl you know. Massage her shoulders, kiss her extensively, and naturally the act will happen. Don't mess it up and you'll do just fine you dog you.
2007-01-12 23:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might find it refreshing that you aren't putting all kinds of pressure on her to have sex. Don't rush to get into a sexual relationship with her or anybody...if you're the right guy for her, it will be WORTH waiting for you!
2007-01-12 23:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is take it slow, real slow. i mean make it last for an hour or more. talk to her every few seconds through the whole thing.
2007-01-12 23:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by notmyrealname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her exactly how u feel and then maybe she can help you
2007-01-12 23:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Legant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋