im 23 yrs old and all i ever hear my mom talk about is my brother and how hes lazy dont do anything....he dropped out of school and just started back uptwo days ago....he does no house work to help out my mom he just plays on the computer all day and night.....he is disrespectful, yells and cusses and my mom and i.....our father passed 5 yrs ago or i know he would beat some sense into him...i know its not my responsibility but i try and take things away from him when hes being a brat....like the comp.....i've even kick his butt a few times but when my mom finds out what i did she tells me....your not his father...he doesnt even take out the trash....please tell me what i am supposed to do cuz its really pissing me off cuz he doesnt do s***. someone give me some advise on what to do with him.....
2007-01-12 15:21:09 · 8 answers · asked by Landon C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Time to find someone to be a big brother to him. By that I mean some guy to stomp his *** on a regular basis. Tell him it's the rude fairy or whatever but yeah, he needs a whoopin. Until my mother took control of the situation I'd do it for her.
The alternative is this, Sit down with your mother and make her realize that she is ruining her sons life. Boys need discipline. It doesn't have to be from the father but someone needs to set that kid straight. It's only hurting him to let his behavior go on. Then sit down with her and him and make sure they both know AND understand that this has ended right now. It sucks having to be your mothers mommy but there has to be a leader in that household. It's either gonna be you and you'll be bailing your brother out prison once or twice a month until he's dead.
I worked with juvenile offenders. I know exactly who your brother is.
2007-01-12 15:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by mjcalohan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, your mother is right when she says you are not his father and you really should not be telling him what to do. I know you want to help out your mother but it really is up to her to punish him.
He is not seeing that he doing anything wrong, all he is see is that someone other then his mother is yelling at him.
My suggestion it to talk to your mother, Give her ideas as to what she can do.
you say all he does is play games on the computer. Then YOUR mother needs to take to computer away. It for some reason he says he paid for it and she can not do that then have her tell him 'fine, it is your computer but it is my electricity' then have her turn the power off in his room. He might get the picture then.
It is possible that your brother is reacting to the death of his father. Even tho is was many years ago it may be getting to him. Not having a father around and this is his way of dealing with it.
Suggest to your mother that him and her get counsling. That may help him deal with things and your mother deal with him
Good Luck
2007-01-12 16:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you live at home you are kind of forced to live in this hostile environment so it is definitely your business what your brother chooses to do and not to do. If you don't live at home be thankful you aren't there for the 24/7 drama. Either way insist that he help out around the house and such or stop listening to your mom complain. It's her problem that she has let her son walk all over her and become lazy. Also suggest enforcing rules and family counseling. His attitude may be stemming from depression related to the death of his father.
2007-01-12 15:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's breaking your heart to see your lowlife brother taking advantage of your mother, but,. . . it's her problem! She's an adult. She wiped his as* when he was young, and can still do it if she had to.
Back off.
Your brother has several things happening. He's bored to death, he hates life because it took his dad, he's a ship without a sail, and hormones are blasting through hsi veins like nobody's bsuiness; he has no blood left , just testosterone. And with that he's frustrated because he doesn't know what to do with it!
Teen boys tend to be lazy at this age. Good ones outgrow it. Bad ones become street urchins or thugs.
Suggests to you mom, gently, and helpfully, that he might be depressed, and need medication. That's the next best thing to kicking his as*.
2007-01-12 15:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking some sense into him. I have an older sister that sounds just like him. Maybe he's rebelling because of your father's death. He needs a father figure. Maybe you can be that.
2007-01-12 15:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by TrayLuvsJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try advicing him.
Make him understand his responsibilities.
Talk to him about your family and his part in leading the family.
Be polite.
Probably he will understand.
All these reactions are bcoz of FRUSTATION only.
2007-01-12 15:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by kirthi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your child. Stay out of it.
2007-01-12 15:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive got one of those in older sis form. wat u do is u make him feel guilty.
2007-01-12 15:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by sk8trgrrl101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋