Do You Really Believe There Is Someone Out There For Everbody??

Question

I have been alone for about 4 years now and i am seriously giving up thinking i am going to find a man....i have not even dated in 4 years!!! It is not that i have not looked because i have but men do not ask me out! I am not ugly,in fact i have been told i am very pretty,but i am overweight.Could that be why i don;t get asked out?I see other overweight people everyday and they have someone.I am sad and lonely and getting depressed just thinking about it.Is it possible that God wants me to be alone and i may never find someone to share my life with?? Please only serious answers..thanks

Answer 1

Dear Friend,
Undoubedly, this is a matter that is causing you some concern, and if you are feeling it, thus it is valid.

In regards to your question about someone out there for everyone, well, it's a little hard to say what God's will for some people is.
Maybe you are right, maybe God has a divine plan for you to lead a celebate life, Glorifying Him through your single life, doing Good wherever you go, for the Glory of His name...St Varina was single, Mother Thresesa, st Nicholas...etc.

But if you have the desire of courtship and being coupled with what people term as the "soul mate", then that is a feeling that God has planted in you, and most likely He would want you to lead a good Christian life (assuming you are Christian), bringing up good Christian children that will go out there and remould the torn fabrics of society.

I personally believe that God has a divine plan for those He wills for them to be married, and He will reveles that special person in the most opportune time,
Noticing when God created Eve from Adam's ribs, we notice the bible say "And God brought Her to Adam...and Adam said She is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh...and God united them as one flesh"....so Adam recognised God's plan for him, and he knew that was the 'one' he was bound to live life with, AFTER GOD HAD BROUGHT HER TO HIM.
So it is God who brings the right person at the right time, and they are known...but as I said, it is not according to our will and timing, but His. Remember when we pray we say "Thy will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven".
Things go wrong when you go for someone just merely out of lonliness or for selfish gains, or for generally the wrong reasons and not having God as your ultimate cause and planner.

So I guess the first thing you need to do is get intouch with God's voice within you...Hear what His divine will is for you, Celebacy Vs Marraige...and when His will is manifested to you, you will recognise it, because you would have gotten used to God's voice within you and you will KNOW...How? You just do, you have to experience God's voice to know it.

I do understand it is extremely frustrating at times, and sometimes lonliness can get the best of you...But hang in there, and when you feel the weight of the pain is too much, trust in God and cry to Him saying "You are the one that promised 'come to me all you burdaned and heavy laden and I will give you Comfort'...now fulfill your promise for I trust in you"...and see what He does.

May our Loving Lord Bless you and Guide you to the unique path and revele to you His specially designed plans for you specifically...God bless you, my friend.

Answer 2

I believe that all relationships are karmic and if you have unfinished business with another, they will come into your life so it can be resolved. You have already answered your question regarding the overweight issue. Other overweight people have relationships, so that's obviously not a barrier. There is a reason you have gone four years without a relationship, and it's a good thing. Try to find the lesson in it and be patient. I don't know whether or not a relationship is in the near future for you or not, but it could very well be just beyond "the horizon." Sometimes when we are looking the hardest, our pursuits evade us. Just relax and know that when the time is right, something better than you imagined will fill that "void".

Much love to you!

Answer 3

No and just because some salesman says you have to couple up to be happy is one of the biggest lies of all times .
I've spent most of my life by myself and the glorious affairs and ex-marriage pale in comparison to the happiness I've found without them . Nearly everyday I see some miserable couples .
Why aren't they happy I ask my self ? Because happiness seldom comes from another and then only when you already have it . Sex is the only thing that requires two and these days sperm banks circumvent that . But you have your own mind to decide .their are plenty of overweight couples that don't care for each other as well and it didn't make them happy .Anyway not meaning to digress my answer is No there is not someone for everybody and if there were they will probably never connect the way the personal services work. So good luck and Peace out

Answer 4

I too used to think that there was somebody out there for me but after spending all my good looking and youthful years on dating the wrong ones I finally gave up. And I am very thin and used to be pretty but age has caught up with me.
Now I am more happier with the Lord and not being distracted by the time and effort it takes to have in a relationship with a man. I feel more free to be me. It is lonely at times but then I just talk to the Lord about it, after all He is a husband to the woman that is widowed or abandoned. He says that He will never leave us or forsake us.
I used to be afraid that I would end up alone but really, Jesus fills my time up and I have no time to be as lonely as before.

Answer 5

I'm a Youth Sunday School Teacher and a nurse. God has a plan for your life, yes I believe that. I too have been alone but I hang on to God's unchanging hands. You must believe that God knows how you feel and he will bring someone to you on His time, not yours. I too had to realize that in God's time I will be with someone. God sees everything. Nothing you do escapes His eye. I have a movie for you to watch. Look at this every time you feel sad and know God is there and will answer your prayers. Start writing down your feelings, a journal. I do and I feel so much better when I write in it. Also make a prayer list in your Bible and talk to God for strength. www.mayyoubeblessedmovie.com God is there and yes I am overweight too.

Answer 6

There are many people in the world each one of them can be for you . You just have to play your cards right. I was stuck in the same thing for a year. I am a guy though but i eventually just had to stick myself out there again. It may be scary getting back into the whole dating scene. But dont be afraid you will be lonely for the rest of your life if you dont go and try to start conversations with men yourself. And sure maybe you are a little overweight like you said. Then try to exercise there are alot of diets that work wonders out there. Dont be afraid of who you are but who you can become. I wish you well and good fortune.

Maybe also sign up for a personnel site haha. I know it may sound very weird to you. But my mom does it and she gets tons of men asking her out on dates and stuff.

Answer 7

Yes, i think God prepares 2 people for eachother for their entire lives, up until they meet.
" There is a time fore everything, a season for every activity under heaven...." this is a great verse and you might find your answer in the Bible. I reccomend reading 1 Corinthing 13, and the verse i just quoted was ecclesiastes 3:1
DONT give up hope just yet, pray and remember that God is in control. He does not want you to be alone, after all his great commission to woman was to be fruitful and multiply. We were put here to be a companion to man. God does not break him promises. youll meet someone God has sent you, but it will happen in His time and only he know when that is... GOD bless

Answer 8

A good first step is to take control of your life. You can't wait to be asked out these days (how old fashioned!) and you assuming that God is to blame is just silly. You have to be assertive in life if you want to achieve your goals. Your attitude will make just as much of an impression as your looks--seriously.
Remember also that having someone in your life doesn't bring happiness. Happiness comes from the love of yourself.
Good luck to you sweetheart. I am sure if you try, you will succeed.

Answer 9

I used to believe there was someone for everyone... but not so much anymore. It's been over 7 years since my last date! I can sympathize with you. I'm also overweight and I see the same things. Women much bigger than me with nice guys. I don't know what it is other than very depressing. Hang in there babe... I hope you can find peace :)

Answer 10

If you are not already attending Church, find a Non-denominational Church near your home and begin worshipping there. We have a number of young people at Church. In fact, we have two of the greatest young ladies in our state that just found two eligible bachelors and married them BOTH of these women are rather ObEsE but they are quite happy with these two large men. They are both Christian women and both of their husbands are studying and attending Church each and every week with us. YOU will be able to find The Right Man if you are choosey and wait for him. I know that the right one does exist!! Have a great evening.
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