My husband and I got married a year and a half ago right before he got deployed. We just sent out announcements and said the reception would be held at a later date. Their deployment just got extended another four months. At this point we are thinking that since we would have been married two years already that we should just skip having a reception but we want to inform all the people we sent announcements to. Is there a good way to word this and explain to them why we just don't feel the need to have one anymore?
2007-01-12 14:56:03 · 8 answers · asked by SSG wife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely.
It should not be a problem sending out cancellations due to the circumstance. Most, if not all, will completely understand the reasoning through the situation. I would word the cancellation tactfully citing the extension of your husband's deployment. As a military wife, I've received such a cancellation before and it happened that, even two years later, the happy couple was stil able to hold a quasi-reception, just a little more low key and casual. All who went celebrated the union like it happened just moments before. If, however, you still do not want to have the reception when your husband returns, if friends/family offer, let them throw you a party anyways. It may be that you could combine it with a welcome home party for your husband!
Good Luck!
LilD
2007-01-12 15:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by lildansr_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be pretty silly to send out cancellation info for a reception that was never actually SCHEDULED in the first place. (Really, it would have been best if your announcements had not had any mention of a "future reception" at all.)
Of course, it is way too late to have an actual wedding reception at this point, so far from the date of your marriage. But, of course, you really don't need a reception.
Whenever he does come back, it would be great to throw an Anniversary Banquet for yourselves. It can look very much like a wedding reception, with a tiered cake and such.
2007-01-13 10:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them the truth...but if I were you, I'd still have the reception. Just because it got posponed, doesn't mean you don't deserve one..
So if you're determined NOT to have one, say all the deployments have made it almost impossible to schedule a reception. (which is the truth...)
Just because you've been married so long doesn't mean you can't have a party...( I got married in 78 and didn't get a honeymoon till 86..I still haven't had a wedding or reception 28 yrs later...) So make the most of the time you have and do what you think is right..(I'd come to the reception no matter how long it took and I think most of your friends and family would too.)
Good Lucky...Many happy years together and thank you for your service to our country !!! ( both of you [[[ ]]] )
2007-01-12 15:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh, I'm so sorry this has happened to the both of you--it's hard to just get married in itself, and then have your new husband taken away to war for so long?
I'd like to suggest that you still have the reception but change it to a "Welcome Home" party. This way all your friends and family can still share in the joy of your marriage and the bigger joy that he has finally returned home to you. Whether you have the party or not, everyone will want to come and see the two of you so scheduling a reception will give everyone on both sides of the family to finally meet, gather and party. You probably will have at least a little get together when he comes anyway, right? So why not keep it as a Welcome home reception and everyone can celebrate your joyful marriage and his great return---ps-- you may have been married for almost two years but you haven't been together for two years--so it isn't the same as a couple who just delayed their reception for that amount of time.
Congratulations to the both of you and thank him from all of us, for serving our country..............Good luck to you both!
2007-01-12 15:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say something like "Due to (your husbands name) extended deployment in service to our country, we regretfully have to cancel our reception on (date) at (place). I wouldn't even mention rescheduling it. Just leave it at that. Close friends and family will already know the reason why you're not rescheduling. If the rest want to know they'll call someone in the know.
2007-01-12 15:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see where you are coming from, and your concern for others is awesome. I agree that you should still do something. Have a party when he comes back, call it what ever you want. if you don't want them to bring "wedding presents" tell them to bring food or something. Plan it and tell them what to bring, take that option out of their hands. just have fun and know that there are people who care about you and love you and want you to have some sort of gathering as a group confirmation of your vows
2007-01-12 15:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by j m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not have a casual party when he returns home. Friends and family will at least want to welcome him home.
Just send out invitations for a "welcome home" reception to celebrate his return and the true start of your marriage.
And God Bless him and bring him safely home!
2007-01-12 15:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can still go ahead with it and instead of calling it a wedding reception, call it a get-together, a barbeque, a party........... maybe have it coincide with a special or significant date (when he returns from deployment, your wedding anniversary.......) maybe renew your wedding vows as well and suprise everyone?!
2007-01-12 15:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Claire K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋