Anyway's when I try to talk to him about our problem, he always gets so mad at me, says its not my problem that I stay so excited 24/7 that its his problem because he stays so tired. But me I think its me, that I am not good enough for him in bed or something, is it too soon to be in a relationship with him, he was in a serious relationship 2 years ago and his girlfriend died in the car accident, is it that he's still not over her, cause he asked to go visit her grave, what should I say to that, what should I do, I really don't think he likes having sex with me, is it me?
2007-01-12 14:52:20 · 9 answers · asked by babygirlshafer251 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're pushy and need to back off...
If he's not over his old girlfriend, then you REALLY need to back off. Give him some space for heavens sake. You think sex is all there is to life...then you need to see a Dr about your addiction to sex. Get a grip and get a life (outside the relationship) you need to grow up...
2007-01-12 14:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he asked to go visit her grave means a lot. He could very well have gone there alone, but he asked you. It actually sounds like he needs you and he would like you to accompany him. As strange as it may sound, it may help you two bond if you show your support and accompany him to her grave. Buy some flowers and go there, hold his hand and let him grieve. She was a part of his life and he probably is a better person from knowing her. It doesn't mean he does not love you or that he is not attracted to you, it sounds as though he is not done grieving and is feeling depressed. Thats normal, show your support and that might help him feel ready to take the next chapter of his life full force.
Now, if things don't get better , remember, life is for the living and you have your needs and deserve to have a healthy relationship. If things stay like this for too long and you being supportive isnt changing anything I would suggest that he consults a therapist and if he doesn't I would move on.
I wish all the best for the both of you =) Hang in there.
2007-01-12 23:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Magz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety number one you have to respect the feelings he still has and always will have for the girlfriend he lost unexpectedly. I understand that you feel a little bit upset at the fact that he still probably loves her, but you do have to understand that he always will love her it's kind of like when a woman or man loses their husbands or wives, yes eventually they will move on with their lives but will always love that person. about the sex if he is saying that he is tired he probably is, does he work long hours? or maybe because he's mentioned about going to her grave he's feeling upset about something that has to do with her memories. Sweety all I can say is take it easy have a "NICE LONG SHOWER" and hope for the best things will get better I am sure
2007-01-12 23:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by coco late 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just isn't ready for that step in the relationship yet, perhaps it does bring up bad memories of his past with his ex-girl friend passing away because of a car accident. It isn't you, it might be just some issues he is dealing with.
2007-01-12 22:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT MAKE YOU THINK HE DOESN'T LIKE HAVING SEX WITH YOU? DID HE SAY SOMETHING ABOUT IT OR IT'S JUST YOUR OWN OPINION?ASK YOUR SELF IF YOU ARE IN DEED SO EXCITED ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.IF HE'S STILL NOT OVER YET WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND GRIEF THEN YOU ARE IN DEED IN A BIG PROBLEM.SOME PEOPLE CAN GET OVER THEIR GRIEF AND CAN'T MOVE ON. GIVE HIM SOMETIME.ASKING YOU TO VISIT HIS EX MIGHT SHOW YOU HOW DEEPLY HE IS HURT.BY THEN YOU CAN DECIDE IF HE IS OVER WITH HIS EX GIRL.THEN YOU CAN EITHER BACK OUT FOR A WHILE OR SLOW DOWN IT'S YOUR CHOICE.GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-12 23:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its you, i think that he still has some emotional attachment to his old girlfriend, its a really horrible thing that happened to him, maybe you should back off from the sex and try to help him get over whatever is troubling him
2007-01-12 22:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by Destiny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he hasn't moved on in his life. Give your relationship time and see where it goes - good luck.
2007-01-12 23:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes got to much baggage you don't need to deal with it. tell him to take time and get over his problems first then call you if your still around
2007-01-12 22:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, well, maybe he is still mourning her death... when someone you really love dies- nothing is ever the same.
2007-01-12 22:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋