Been going out with this girl for nine months. first two months we had some disagreements but the sex was great... never had it like that before; I could say I finally lost my virginity with this girl. But for the ast three months she has been depressed...and tried to kill herself twice. She claims to love me but needs time and needs to be alone... I cant live without her and dont know whats going on... may be I should leave....
2007-01-12 14:32:43 · 11 answers · asked by Don Mario D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shoukd never leave!!! This girl needs some help, professional help. That doesn't mean you are not great as the way you are. Don't ever consider to kill yourself, really, it is not woth it. What I think that you should do is to tell her how you feel, maybe call her twice a week or something, just keep in touch as friends... I know you love her, but she needs time to think about her life... It is not that you are totally leaving her, just giving her space.
you have a lot to live really, there is nothing heroic or great about killing yourself. You are just going to hurt the people that needs you and that really love you.
Please think it!!! Good luck
2007-01-12 14:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you both need to get some serious counseling,because your both contemplating a permanent solution to fix a problem,that you can get help for,dealing with from a counselor.and if the two of you do succeed with committing suicide like it sounds like your trying to do,both of your families will have to deal with the loss and pain for the rest of there lives,and do you really think that is fair to do that to them.trust me that is not the answer,i have tried it and i thank god every day that i didn't succeed,because my family and friends would have to deal with the pain that i would have caused them,with my own selfishness.and my life would not have turned out the way that it has.and i would have missed out on spending time with my grandchildren,and my future husband. death is permanent,you can not come back ever so get some serious help before it is to late.
2007-01-12 23:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by LaRie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok guys will do this more than girls. its male ego not being sexist this time but its true. men hide their feelings more than women do. they believe in acting it out not talking it out. we will get together with our girlfriends and talk it out and cry for god knows how long but ultimately solve out problem more often than we choose to resort to such actions. and men wont take sleepng pills and die in an easy painless way..they will choose to do some real action packed sequence....now let me tell you this is foolish and not worth it
u dont even get the chance to regret it. please think rationally. hard times will pass. ending your life ends the possibilty of the situation improving. and now do u you want others to suffer for you as well
i have had someone in my family commit a similar deed and we still feel the grief today after fifteen years. please think about those you would leave after you and understand life is far too valuable to end. suicide is cowardice. live and face the situation if you will.
2007-01-12 22:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long break between you two would be just fine. Most important is that you either hold on to her for life, or leave her now before it gets worst. But what ever it is... be by her side to help her get some help.
2007-01-12 22:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pa'C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stay and talk to a counselor this will pass. Whether this relationship works out or not now is not the time to give up your life. DO NOT LIFE IS PRECIOUS. You can go on.
2007-01-12 22:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Don
take her to a doc
rest find reasons for her depression...
what could depress her that even when she is in love she tried killing herself twice in 3months
if you wanna leave then dude u aint in for love you were in for sex period ..... honest but rude truth....
if you care for her.... help her thru this time.....
and look at bright side lovely sex thru out ur life...
PS... depressed people should not be given time alone..... she would try third time....
2007-01-12 22:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by rocks_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you didnt have to include the sex part but if your having a problem then i think you should probly dump her then because oveslly shes problly cheating on you but depressed how shes gonna tell you
2007-01-12 22:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by montanna l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems the girl is having a bad time generally speaking.... if you have tried to help her and she sees you as an enemy... leave, but go to lake tahoe and have fun
2007-01-12 23:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..he can..just need to jump off the building..dude..get a grip..you want to die because your girl left you..what about your family?What do you suppose you can do..if they think the same way..and die because you left them?
2007-01-12 22:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Remus L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both should get professional help.
2007-01-12 22:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by linka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋