My ex called me the other day. We have not spoken to each other in about two months. She needed to find some info regarding a former friend which is the father of her baby. He was also a former friend of mine. I dated her and excepted the child. I broke up with her because I felt that she was using me. I never wanted to, but I was being used. Anyway the following day I gave her the info she needed and we spoke for a while. She told me how her baby is teething and growing, it sent chills down my spine. I was so happy to hear that they are doing alright. I still care for them in my heart. I sent her a text message tonight to let her know that if she needed a friend I was here for her. I have gotten over her, but hearing her voice on the phone made me realize I still miss her. What are the chances of us getting back together. Do you think she just wanted the info, or could she possibly be thinking of me too? Was I wrong in sending her that text message tonight? Honest answers please.
2007-01-12 14:25:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she's looking for someone to support her and her child and she knows you are an easy target so she's going for it open your eyes and make sure if she wants to get back to you it's because she really cares for you.I'm a mother of 3 young men.
2007-01-12 14:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by fontinha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might not have a lot of chances to get back together, because like you said, you ended the relationship because you felt she was using you. I wouldn't know if she really wanted to talk to u or not, maybe she realized you are a good man and a great father for her baby or she just needed the info she asked you for. You didn't do anything wrong by texting her, because after all, you did it because you followed your heart, just don't do it again as you will look desperate, wait for her to call you, and if you see a change in her (a true one) you might be able to start again and have a good relationship!! I wish you the best!
2007-01-12 22:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Stella d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very likely she was looking for an excuse. Sounds like she misses you too.
Hang in there and wait and see.
The two of you might have something real.
I wish you both happiness either way. It is good to hear a story about to ex's being so kind to one another.
Always remember that no matter how it works out, the two of you saw something good in each other and that doesn't go away just because you are not together. :)
I wish you both the best - and that baby too! :)
2007-01-12 22:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey George, If she was using you in the past and she called you for something other than to see how you're doing I don't think you two will get back together. If you we're to you'd be in the same spot you got yourself out of in the first place. Offering to be a friend is the best way to stay in contact. She can know that you care about her and the baby without putting your neck out again.
2007-01-12 22:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could she have gotten the info from anyone else??
if yeah, then she might be thinking/missing you 2, and just needed an "excuse" 2 call u.
no, you weren't wrong in sendin the txt, it was a sweet thing.
but dont be too pushy if she doesnt txt/call back, dont try to contact her again 4 a lil while
she might just want you as a friend maybe more, but if you feel you were being used the first time, then maybe she might use you again
good luck :)
2007-01-12 22:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ms.peREz?♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i keep in mind that just because you miss her, doesnt mean that you want to be with her again. i say this because you said you moved on. maybe what you really miss is being part of their lives. the baby's and her's. you still care about them, is all. maybe you just want them around again, but that doesnt mean that you want a relationship again. why dont you just tell her that? tell her that despite your past, you still care about her (in a non-romantic way) and are willing to help her out and be with her and the baby. and later on when you're more sure of your feelings, you can decide if you want to start a new romantic relationship or not.
2007-01-12 22:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably couldve gotten info from someone else. She mustve been thinking about you and that was an excuse to call you. Chances are great of getting back together sounds like.... BUT why would you feel any different about her this time? Wouldnt you feel like she was using you again?
2007-01-12 22:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows the answer to your question. Only time will give you the answer.
At any rate, you sound like a remarkable man - if it doesn't work out with this woman, you'll make some other girl very happy.
2007-01-12 22:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Miranda M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if she wants you back, and hearing her voice has maybe made you feel the same. i think she was thinking of you but maybe not in the same way. Personally i think you should take a step back and see what happens from there.
2007-01-12 22:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by lasticlegs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to understand the motives of your ex. In the past, she used you and what makes you think that she's not using you now?...Anyway, if you still love her, don't hesitate to go back to her or win her back. You might regret it if you dont...loving is a very painful yet great experience...painful for those you feel out of love.. and great for those who gave love unconditionally...take your pick..take a chance...and maybe you won't regret your decision...
2007-01-12 22:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by trina22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋