My daughter has been acting up since I had the baby (9 weeks ago )and I need to find good ways on how to discipline her or good ways to balance out her and the baby.....any thoughts???
2007-01-12 14:22:58 · 13 answers · asked by mommyangel424 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If she is acting out because of the addition of a new sibling, I'd suggest making sure she is getting some one-on-one time and gets praised when she does something good. Find ways to involve her in helping care for the baby, like bringing you a burp cloth or diaper, let her pick out baby's outfit for the day, help put lotion on baby, etc. And talk to her a lot about when SHE was a baby. What did she like? What did you do with her?
Good parenting books:
The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears
The Successful Child by Dr. Sears
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Faber & Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber & Mazlish
Kid Cooperation by Elizabeth Pantley
Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Kurcinka
Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower
Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey
Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen (sp?)
2007-01-13 06:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter thinks you love the new baby, and not her anymore. If you discipline her for it, or spank her, you will be confirming all her fears. Be careful what you say to her now, you could lose that closeness you have forever. Let her help you with the new baby, pass you things like the baby powder at changing time, and let her sit next to you and hold the baby if she wants to, but she probably won't be too keen on that if her anger is very strong. Talk to her, try not to brush her off when you're stressed and tired. See if your husband will sit with the baby so you two can stroll down to the corner store after dinner every evening, so she can enjoy some time with you all to herself. Reassure her you still love her just as much as before and nothing will change that. She'll come around.
2007-01-12 19:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your daughter is feeling jealous and ignored after the birth of her baby sibling. Not that you are ignoring her, it is just that the new baby is demanding a bit more attention right now (even if you are trying hard not to show it to your daughter) and your daughter is probably feeling that. Children are very receptive. I wouldn't be looking for ways to punish her, it will only make her feel like she is being "bad" for wanting your attention. I would look for ways to spend time with her. Just you and her. Try to have your spouse/partner or a family member watch the baby for an hour or two and do something special with your daughter, just the two of you. I bet her behavior will become much better once she knows she is not being replaced by her sibling.
2007-01-12 14:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR it is time for your husband to help brother mother father sister and family member to join in to take to the park to swing play rent movies for just her and some one in your family who has time for her she Julius of the baby she thinks that mommy that you do not love her any More scents the new baby has come you are going time for just you and her to fill loved and not hurt right now she is really hurting bad she is going to want to leave and go to grand parents and not come we are going thorough the same thing so i know how you fill OK as for discipline her give her time to a just to all this she was only yours for the longest time with any one else a round and she has to share to just be punishment for a week are too OK take care then if it does not work then i will give you tips on disciplining her OK take care happy new year
2007-01-12 17:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is only acting up because she has to share you with the baby.
Try letting her help you with the baby. Ask her to help change diapers, bedding, and make it fun to do. Let her know that she is just as special as the baby. She is now the BIG SISTER, and will be able to help teach the baby all the things she knows. Try to put aside some special time for just the 2 of you. She will adjust it just takes time and love.
Good Luck hope this helps.
2007-01-12 14:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a four year old and a 19th month old what i did was let her help me with the baby i'll let her bring me things help with the bottle or let her watch him if i am doing things i have done this every since i had the baby, now she doesn't want to help at all but she has never been jealous of him and she always wanted to protect him
2007-01-12 23:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by OnTheProwl007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting isn't for Cowards and Dare to Discipline by James Dobson are excellent resources for learning how to balance attention, love and discipline. Right now, she needs you to be firm and consistent in your discipline, but make sure you are making time for just you and her to spend together. It is normal for her to both love her new sibling and be jealous and fearful of losing her place in your heart.
2007-01-13 03:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by wannasnooze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The book is called, Chilldren the Challenge written by Rudolf Dreikurs. Very good book, recommended by a psychologist I was seeing.
2007-01-12 16:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"1-2-3 Magic" should be in the parenting section of your library/ book store. I have had this recommended to me by other parents AND his doctor. Although I do advise counting down "3-2-1" as opposed to up as the book says. my son would just keep counting up.
2007-01-12 15:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
James Dobson has written many good books. One of my favorites is about parenting "strong willed" children. He writes from a Christian perspective, but I think it would be helpful even if that is not your faith.
2007-01-13 14:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Robin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋