Both of my parents are deceased, and I have been wondering if it would be appropriate to ask my future father-law, to give me away. I have know family living, and also his brother would probably do this as well. Don't know if this is proper or not. Help me please. Thank you....
2007-01-12 14:20:18 · 18 answers · asked by pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nowadays anything goes. You would want a person that you love and respect to walk you down the aisle. In the old days the father would give the bride to the husband because he had agreed to take charge of her. Remember women were considered possessions at one time. This is not the case today thank God, so choose whoever you feel close to and I am sure that they will feel very honoured. By the way it doesn't necessarily have to be a man, it could be a favourite aunt, or godmother. God bless and congratulations.
2007-01-12 14:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would say a lot to walk yourself down the aisle. All the attention is on the bride anyways. You are obviously a very strong and independant woman so you should show it. You are giving yourself away. If anything i would find a close friend. Personally, I wouldn't have anyone from his family because it is to symbolize your family giving you away to his.
2007-01-12 22:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by justjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a minister and it is totally appropriate. If you love the person and it is meaningful to you, then do it. It doesn't matter if it is a best friend, a brother, a father in-law. You choose what you want at your wedding.
2007-01-12 22:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by angel444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be anyone you want. It can be your best friend from Kindergarten, or your soon-to-be brother-in-law or your neighbor's 3 year old. It's the thought that counts.
There are a lot of women today who opt not to be escorted at all if they don't have a direct family member; it's all up to you.
2007-01-13 01:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your wedding so you can have whoever you want to give you away and whoever you ask will no doubt see it as an honour.
my husband gave his sister away.
a friend of mine walked down the aisle herself.
another friend had a close male family friend do the honours, and another had her future father in law.
just dont stress and enjoy the day
2007-01-12 22:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Claire K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Escorting you down the aisle is different than giving you away.
You can have anyone you want escort you down the aisle. Even your maid of honor or flowergirl or father of groom... whomever you choose.
The giving-away is part of the ceremony that should involve someone who was a parent to you or somewhat like a parent, like a Godparent or grandparent or aunt or guardian or whatever.
So, since your fiance's dad did not raise you, it would be fine for him to escort you down the aisle, but kind of ridiculous for him to be "giving you away."
2007-01-13 18:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you could if you want. My father had died two years before my wedding, and my mom wouldn't give me away. I didn't want to walk down the aisle alone, so my husband to be and I walked in down the aisle together. So that may be another option for you.
2007-01-13 05:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, both of my parents are deceased as well. I have friends who offered to walk me or I would just walk myself. Either way you have choices, go with what you want for your special day. Congrats and good luck!
2007-01-15 00:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's up to you but there is nothing inappropiate in either one of them giving you away. My cousin had her son give her away cuz her parents wouldn't come to her wedding. My husband is going to give my best friend away cuz her parents are deceased and she loves her fiance but hates his family.
2007-01-12 22:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be an excellent way to honour him to ask your father-in-law to give you away .... unless your grandfather is still alive or uncles that are near & dear to you .... if not, your father in law is a great idea.
2007-01-12 22:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by drewandrita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋