i have nown my bf for 3 months and he asked me for s.e.x what should i do i love him alot but what happens if he dumps me after i have s.e.x
2007-01-12 14:18:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Frankly, if you cant even openly type out the word sex than you shouldnt be having it...
...Not because he might leave you after it ( you alone can judge whether he cares for you or not and he shouldnt be pressuring you) but because sex should be without fear or shame. Until you can deal with it as a natural act without all these polite little taboos than you better not even poke it with a stick much less be allowing others to poke you.
Then again, that might be the only way you learn. And if he does dump you afterwards, then you were wrong about him and what happens is that you realize the problem isnt with s.e.x and then move on to find a better man, and stop using those d*** periods!
2007-01-12 14:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by uberzwitter67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when i say you think you love him but you're just in lust with him right now.Be patient and wait.If he cares anything for you at all he'll understand and wait.I'm 31 years old and celibate(which means i'm living sex free) and have been for 2 years.It's a choice i made after my ex and i broke up.I have a friend now who respects this and knows he can wait or he can leave.My body is a precious gift and i always treat it as such and you should do the same.Sex is not what he wants or just what you want,it's what you both want.
2007-01-12 15:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by april d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're worried he may dump you after then definately don't. Follow your instincts. If he loved you he wouldn't pressure you and wait until you're ready. 3 months is not a long relationship and in my opinion you don't really know if it's love until after the newness wears off. After about 9 months the real test of the relationship starts.
2007-01-12 15:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he won't push you into having sex...
3 months dating is not long...and many guys do dump girls after sex...If he really loves you he will wait until you are ready for that...if it takes another 6 months, a yr ...let him wait..if your under 18 yrs of age..don't take the chance of messing up your life..even a condom may not help you from getting pregnant...
many boys do lie to get in a girls pants..thats all they want and think about...then they brag to thier friends who the banged...
Just wait...ok....
2007-01-12 14:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose:
1) Getting dumped after your bf had sex with you
OR
2) Getting dumped and retain your chasity.
Please... sex is not equal to love. Tell your bf if he loves you, you will give him sex when you are comfortable and ready, preferably on your wedding night. If he insists on whatever reasons, dump him. Because when you give in to his selfish demands, one day he will still dump you when he found himself a new sexual partner. I really urge you to think it through... For yourself
2007-01-12 14:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Schizophrenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I would not do it after only 3 months, not in this day in age. I mean, depending on his past experiences, he possibly could have something that he may give to you. I would wait. That is just my opinion.
2007-01-12 14:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by MG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's EXACTLY what will happen. You will be another notch on his belt and you will be history. If he doesn't respect you enough to stay with you without sex. . . he isn't worth it. YOU maintain your self respect, your self esteem, and hopefully your virginity. After all the ONLY gift you can give to your future husband that no one else can give is your virginity. Forget all of the rest of the lies.
2007-01-12 14:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to wait. Obviously if you're asking us what to do, you're not ready for it. Probably neither is he after 3 monthes.
Don't feel like you're burdening him saying you want to wait, he should respect your wishes. Not try to push you into it.
Please wait until your ready it'll be a lot better then now.
2007-01-12 14:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are saving yourself for your one true love. If he is your true love he will wait as long as it takes for you to realize he is without pressuring you. For a lasting relationship you should wait until you are married to have sex.
2007-01-12 14:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you scared hes going to dump you after intercourse, then hes not a real BF. If you are going to have "it" then make sure its wiht the right person. and use protection. if your not comterble wiht sex, then dont do it. you have the right to have absentice.
GL
2007-01-12 14:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Stiverson. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋