He never lets me do anything, anytime it comes for me asking him if i can go out with my friends he alwayz says no, its like im ubder house arrest or sumthing. so is there any suggestions of how i can make him change his mind.
2007-01-12 14:17:05 · 20 answers · asked by vera_dafinest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah tell him i will go as a chaperon so he does not have to worry about anybody watching you i'll be doing that
2007-01-12 14:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest having a sit-down with him. The best way for you guys to connect and come to a resolution is to chat. When you do talk to him, make sure that you do not automatically go into a defensive mode and be as mature as possible when approaching the subject. More than likely, if you both give a little, you and your father may be able to come up with an amiable solution that you both will respect and feel comfortable with.
I remember when I first asked my dad if I could go to the movies with my friends. He was completely against the idea, until I had the chat with him. Ultimately, he allowed me with a few conditions like taking his phone with me, letting him know which movie I was going to and where, what time it started and ended, and an understanding that it was a trial run and if I did not come back home when expected, I would not be allowed to do it again. After a few times out, he became more trusting and comfortable, until it was no big deal.
Good Luck!
LilD
2007-01-12 14:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by lildansr_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I lived with an over protective mom and step dad. I first had to start out slow. I had to ask if i could go to my friends house, which was only a few blocks away. I had to give him her parents phone number, tell him where it was, tell him EXACTLY what time i would be home, exactly what we were going to do, and i could NOT mess up. Other wise i would not be allowed to go out again for a long time. And they gave me a cell phone, and if i didn't answer it when they called, they would come out and look for me. Eventually i gained their trust and was able to go out to movies, and to concerts without them being TOO concerned. So just start small to gain his trust. You have to let him know that you are responsible enough to go out and do things on your own. I might help if the next time you ask to do something, give him as much information as you can about where you are going and what you are doing When you ask him. Good Luck, i hope this helps.
2007-01-12 14:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever shown him that you can be responsible? Tell him the truth, let him know about the plans and if he gives you a curfew, follow it. Start off light with movies or something that involves a group. Then as he sees that you are responsible and truthful...he'll trust that you can make good decisions. Remember though that it is hard for parents to let go of the kids. Parents just want to protect them no matter what! Hope it works out for you!
2007-01-12 14:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of trust takes time to build. You might have done something when you were younger that led your dad to believe you can't take care of yourself? He's probably just concerned you might mix with the wrong crowd or get hurt. Show him that you and your bunch of friends are responsible young adults. Be patient. And be honest with your dad about your every move. Lying about anything, no matter how small, will only worsen your cause when he finds out.
2007-01-12 14:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by alex405hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt put your age on here but i will tell you as a mom that acting responsibly and not whining or throwing tantrums will help. be on your best behavior for a while and then ask to talk to your dad about something that is important to you. tell him you want to be able to spend time with your friends,and that you understand he is just wanting to keep you safe. tell him you want him to know you are responsible and ready to prove it. then do just that, get your chores done before he asks you . do your homework without being asked. act like a mature young person and eventually he will most likely start treating you like one. it can be a long process and sometimes it sucks, but parents only want whats best for their kids. also it can be hard to realize that the little baby you used to snuggle and cuddle is now a person with a life of their own.
2007-01-12 14:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by rcmc1228 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your under 14 probably not..but if your 14 or over then he might make an exception if yu persuade him that you are a very responsible person. or for about a week do some responsible things around the house like deep clean or somethin then ask..see if he changes his mind
2007-01-12 14:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by K-Rad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your age. i am sure he is just worried about you, allot of bad things are happening in the world these days. start small, have your friends over so he can get familiar with them. then maybe ask to go to the mall even if he takes you and sticks around. or maybe a movie or bowling?? talk to him and reassure him he can trust you then prove that you can. don't be late....call if you have a cell etc etc
2007-01-12 14:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the experience that your pal needs to noticeably spend an afternoon with you having relaxing, she will like to spend the time in L.A. and settle for that, if she feels dissatisfied because she will't take earnings of the ski slopes then i ask your self if she isn't somewhat immature for her age and if she is your pal fairly only because she likes you or because she needs to take earnings of the particular incontrovertible truth that you've certain issues at your disposal that she wouldn't have. that would nicely be unhappy, because friendship has no longer some thing in any respect to do with who can provide you with a great time, if she likes you and also you're both grown up and adults now, then do not chance operating for the period of a cop assassin in the hills, one could no longer tempt destiny and a severe bus coincidence can take position to an experienced motive force, i'd honour my fathers' desires on that and in case you had more suitable time to stay which includes your dad, i'm certain you and your pal would get up to the slopes...it truly is only simply by no longer having more suitable than an afternoon there that this makes it not likely to take position..i'd settle for his decision and he or she has to advance up emotionally to boot, your pal. If she would not get which includes her stepmom, per chance search for suggestion from her about that and this can no longer make her adversarial in route of your stepmother, who looks to love her to deal which includes her in a astounding way...that female has to handle some relatives issues.per chance in case you're close pals you are able to search for suggestion from her about this concern and per chance speaking helps her to get issues into perspective...x she will't bypass by skill of existence with a consistent grudge ..x
2016-10-30 23:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your friends male and female over for dinner, or for sleep overs (all the same sex) or to work together on home work, or to share a rented movie with your parents (pick a film you know your parents will enjoy). If he gets to know some of them he won't be sooo up tight. Trust me on this - I had the same problem, once.
2007-01-12 14:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show responsibility toward things like school, continue to be the good daughter that you are. Sit down with your Dad and talk to him, maybe he is afraid of losing his little girl. No matter how old you become you will always be your Dad's little girl. :>)
2007-01-12 14:35:33 · answer #11 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋