i was with my ex gf for almost 5 years. we broke up 2 months ago,due to time she needed alone. during the 2 months, we still talked on the phone, still argued with eachother, and still had sex. she said she wants time for herself, but when we do have sex, no protection is used, and she is not on the pill. so why would she still have sex with no protection when we are not a couple? so is this the same thing as still being together but just on a break?
2007-01-12 14:09:36 · 16 answers · asked by Hoang Giao V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is using you until someone better comes along..get rid of her.
2007-01-15 01:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would YOU have sex with someone without protection. Don't worry about why she would. You need to protect yourself. Bringing children into an already unstable relationship will only cause the children misery. You argue, when a child comes along, the arguing will not stop it will increase.
You need to take hold of this 'relationship'. No sex without precaution. Don't listen to all the waffle about being on the pill because it takes a while for your body to adjust to the effects the pill will have if you havn't taken it before or for a long time.
See this woman for what she is, she is planning to have your baby and if she was not, she would be on the pill or insisting you use precaution. No woman will have unprotected sex and think.. oh well, if I get pregnant I will just have a termination. NO WAY. She is on a calculated plan. Put a stop to it. You are broken up so just move on. Really. You have been in a relationship for 5 years - go and have fun - safe fun.
Don't get trapped by this lady who wants something to show for the 5 years she has been with you. Tell her it's over once and for all.
2007-01-12 14:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You two are still together, hate to tell you. I broke up with my ex almost two years ago and we visit every now and then, but we're protected. She's obviously not clear about some things in her own life. If I were you, I would back up just to see where her head is at. And just food for thought, she has become content with you in some ways but not in all. This is why she says she needs room, but feels it's okay to still do everything else with you. Is she even still in love with you?
2007-01-12 14:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by ksfinney17 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems like it , maybe she wanted to be alone compared to attached , now it looks like a friend with benefits relationship. But having sex with no protection could be cuz she doesnt like using , there is a difference but she should be on the pill. And for you I would suggest that you start using a condom , you might not want to hear this , but who says that shes not sleeping with other people. Just protect yourself and talk to her if you feel like your going to get hurt.
2007-01-12 14:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She & you are playing Russian Roulette there.
Given the state of your relationship as described by you, having unprotected sex wouldbe the last thing I'd be doing.
As to 'does she still want a relationship?' Clearly she has one, and it goes on off on off on off etc like Cristmas tree lights, but it's still a 'relationship.'
My recommendation is that one of you really ought to take on the role of the Adult and behave like one otherwise there is going to be a 'little accident' who is likely to become some kind of piggy in the middle of the pair of you. And I think that 'that' would be an hell of a place to be.
So, who is going to take charge then?
Best of luck.
Sash.
2007-01-12 15:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be Vary cautious you are on thin ice ... dude... really get some rubbers for you tell her that her space is not going to be her claim to your baby and your paycheck if she wants that she has to say the I do thing.... if you don't take care of your rights she will have the favor of the court when she goes crying about what a horney perv you where honest it happens everyday!!!
2007-01-12 14:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by chris f 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it just means she has the right to screw around on you. She may be sleeping around with others and you may be headed for Penicillinville if you're not more careful. Unless you want to have this woman in your life for at least the next 18 years, I'd wrap that rascal and get a new girlfriend.
2007-01-12 14:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
shes confused BIG TIME. you need to give her some time no sex, phone calls. you don't want to get into a situation that your not ready for. shes being weak and inconsistent so you be the strong one just ask her to make a dicition
2007-01-12 15:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by buffeyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alol women need their space but to me it sounds like yes you are still together but she likes to have time to her self when she wants it and for using no protecting while having sex well that tells me she wants to have a child to you
2007-01-12 14:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by megan p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not with her and she's not with you you guy's are what you call F***ing Buddies booty call one night stand sex without the relationship make sure you ware a RAINCOAT don't get caught without yours!!
2007-01-12 14:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by deezbrats 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hear the pitter patter of tiny feet on the way
2007-01-12 14:58:44 · answer #11 · answered by ella915824 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋