My husband is thinking about joining the Army but I'm scared about what will happen to our son and I?
2007-01-12 14:08:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's hard at first but then it gets easier, once you get used to it all. The seperations are hard but you get used to that too. There are a lot of other women that are going through the same thing, so you can talk to someone. Insurance is great (medical), paid vacations, off on most government holidays. It's really not that bad...once you get used to it and kids adjust.
2007-01-12 14:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by BlairBear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well, if he is looking to make a career out of it...that would be really tough. Think of it this way...the Army will come first. You and your son will be second. He will basically become the Army's b***h.
Yeah the insurance is great, and the pay, well, not so great unless you are higher rank.
He will probably end up being deployed somewhere...so you have to look forward to a year without him.
You will most likely have to move once he finds out his duty station.
The Army is very unpredicatable. One second he could have the weekend off and then the next they will make him come to work.
My husband is in the Army...but only signed up for 3 years and 16 weeks. He is getting out in April 2008 and he cannot wait.
Only certain people are cut out for the military lifestyle. There are other ways to serve your community/country. My husband's goal is to become a fire fighter.
Tell your husband to think really hard about this because you will have a complete lifestyle change. It is not a decision to be taken lightly.
***I have to add that I have only been an Army wife for 6 months and have been involved with my husband for about a year and 2 months so I really have NO clue what it is like to live the lifestyle for years upon years. I am just answering based on first impression.
The people that tell you that it is worth it and that they don't regret the lifestyle they are living is because they don't know anything else. The military is their life. Just prepare for the best, but expect the worst.
2007-01-12 14:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been in the Army for 10 years now. I've only been with him for 3 of those years. We have two kids. My husband is currently on his second deployment in 3 years. It isn't easy and the deployments are long and hard to cope with sometimes. You won't be recognized by the army as anything more than a dependent. But you will get insurance and decent pay and you will never have to worry about him getting fired. It is a secure job. I personally don't mind it. Its something that you should talk about and both be 100% sure about though before he signs up. He can't just decide to quit if he gets tired of it. Best of luck to you both!
2007-01-12 15:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by SSG wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.. it is not as bad as you may have heard once he has passed his trainning you will be allocated a quarter .It is a whole new world with a fab social life and you will make good friends.There are downsides like being left behing when he deploys but that is when your friends who are going through the same become your lifeline .I love married army life i get to go to fancy balls and have so many friends around the world .It is natural to be scared but really you have no need
2007-01-13 02:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2yrs and he has been in the military for 5yrs. He has gone on training missions and to Iraq twice. Mind you we don't have any children, but I can tell you that it isn't easy. But loving him the way I do, it is totally worth it. There will be other wives there to help you along the way. It is not a decision for you two to make quickly. But I can tell you that it though it isn't easy, it is worth it.
2007-01-12 14:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋