We have been going out for almost 2 yrs. now. I Still love Her very much. Right after this incident hapen she moved out the next day. We both talk to each other like 3 times a week. She lives out of town @ her parents house. Im supprised her dad dident kill me. Its really hard for both of us to be away from each other but when we were living together we fought most of the time. We All herd of the Golden Rule, once they hit you leave them and never go back, because it will most likley happen again. Should I believe this whole heartedly or should just break all ties with her out of fear for Her getting hit by me again. I really need your advise on this. Thx.
2007-01-12 14:03:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why did u hit her? did she cheat on u or something like that?
2007-01-12 14:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can decide whether you want to be an abuser or not. You talk as if it's out of your hands. It's all within your control.
Get yourself into some counseling, and I don't mean with her but alone. Face your anger, your issues and if you're lucky she will see that you mean business. When she sees that she's safe (if she is) you may get her back.
Don't ask her back until you are sure you will NEVER hit her again. You can do this. Get with other men who know the deal and learn how to handle yourself. It sounds as if you really want to become a man. I think you can.
2007-01-12 14:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a positive sign that you own up to hitting her and are worried for her safety from yourself. Maybe you can consider anger management, and all the tips to control your temper without resorting to hitting anybody, or even verbally abusing anyone for that matter.
But usually, yes, I believe the safe and right solution to an abusive relationship is to get out of it. You should be surprised she hasn't reported you to the police. But if you show her your commitment to changing your violent ways, there might be a chance for you and her to be back together.
2007-01-12 14:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by alex405hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you've fought each and each of the time in the courting, it isn't a healthful courting and if it speeded up to a actual one then that's certainly an risky and an rather risky one. Sorry yet in the meanwhile you should leave this courting and cope which includes your anger concern first. till you are able to honestly get professional help and conquer this concern you should no longer be in any courting in the meanwhile. To bodily damage someone isn't Love. Love isn't assume to leave scars or bruises, an abuser does and those people do not recognize what love is fairly about. Get help earlier you ultimately end up killing your loved.
2016-10-30 23:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated in effect, when you were together, you fought most of the time, you have the fear that you will hit her again, you are surprised that her dad did not kill you. Obviously, the relationship was not as good as you now recall. Probably be best to move on.(she should have filed domestic violence charges against you)
2007-01-12 14:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for being brave enough to ask.questions! You need to read up on domestic violence pronto. It's never 'just" one hit. There's lots of stuff that builds up to it, and verbal abuse can be as damaging as physical violence. You need to spend some time with yourself before you get involved with her or anyone else. This didn't come from no where. Violence in the home always escalates, often rapidly, and rarely, if ever, goes away, and it can be fatal Whether you want to admit it, she now knows that she is never physically safe from you using your strength against her.. I'm not coming down on you because you're asking and are obviously very concerned. Educate yourself. The answer to all of your questions is in knowledge on domestic violence. There is a saying in DV circles. "There is no excuse for domestic violence." Good luck to you.
2007-01-12 14:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by PatriciaH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would said try the friendship. I understand that there might be love but if she was able to push your button (I guess I say) to hit her, just think of what would happen if she really push your buttons and you hit her again but this time really hurt her. This could reck everything for both of you. I would try friendship and then maybe if you to want to try a relationship then I would advise you to do some kind of counselling by yourself and then together.
2007-01-12 14:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should leave you for good.
But if you really want to change get some counseling and figure out why you punched someone you supposedly loved in the face. If you punch her in the face after 2yrs, what will you do to her after 5 or 10 years?
2007-01-12 14:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to go to an anger management class. Then tell her/them that you are going to a class to help you out. Maybe that might help out some.
2007-01-12 14:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by James 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you seek therapy regardless what people say and just forgive yourself and hope she forgives you and she probably begged her father to show you mercy. I think you need to forget about her and move on. This is my recommendation. My advice.
2007-01-12 14:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would def leave my bf if he ever hit me... however he begs to differ. he saus i love him so much id never leae him... i dont know. but i would leave everything alone for a little bit. let things cool off first... then maybe talk to her and work everything out.
good luck
2007-01-12 14:09:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋