I have a five year old sister that always gets into my stuff after everyone in our family has told her not to. I have basically asked her not to literally over 100 times. I have tried talking to my parents about getting a lock for when I am not there, but they keep "forgetting" to get one, and they shun everything that happens. She always takes my stuff and ruins it!! She eats all my snacks and candy and stuff, even when it is in my room! I've talked to my parents about setting boundaries and not letting her in but they have told her a few times, and she has never listened, and they refuse to punish her for the way she acts. When I try to give her reasoning all she says is "I'm right! I am allowed in YOUR room if I WANT TO!!!!" and she just stays in there trashing my room. What should I do!! This has been going on forever!! I HATE IT SO MUCH!!! I know she's just five but she needs to learn to respect people's privacy and their stuff, especially when they are told not to touch it! Help!
2007-01-12 14:01:39 · 9 answers · asked by gymnast.girl520 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start playing with her and being nicer. Threats will have more meaning then. Also you can say stuff like "I'll never play dolls with you again if you don't get out". Hope that helps.
2007-01-12 14:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 5 I KNEW not to get into other peoples' property because I knew that I would be punished,for example, a time out. Take my advice: buy your own lock with a key and a combination. If your sister does not go to school yet tell her that if she ruins other peoples' stuff she won't have very many friends in school or teach her the "golden rule": "treat others the way you want to be treated!
2007-01-13 13:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by annagarcia1992@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm impressed with how clearly you see your situation. I like how you've gotten all your ideas in a row and it's a shame that your parents don't give you the respect to make this happen for you. Can you buy your own lock? Or, take some of your sister's favorite toys and when she confronts you say "I'm right, I'm allowed to have your toys." Try to kneel down and get her into a conversation about how sisters are friends/buddies who take care of each other and each other's stuff.
good luck!
2007-01-12 14:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well most kids learn through showing them not telling them this is going to sound childish but you need to go into her room and get some of her toys out one of her favorites and do something to it or tell her you threw it away, don't throw it away just tell her you did, after a while she will see it's not fun having er stuff ruined so she won't want to ruin yours. With kids that haven't had boundaries set this is the only way to show them. It may sound mean but int he end she will learn.
2007-01-12 14:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by W2D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKay well i guess i could say i relate to this. But she's ONLY 5 YEARS OLD. Like i mean you shouldn't really expect so much from her when shes 5. She may not know how it feels to trash others rooms. So i suggest you just let it go. Or get a lock yourself .
2007-01-12 14:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 04:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you will be the parent.
At 5, kids do not understand cause and effect, so you can yell all yu want and it will have no effect.
You have two options
Tit for tat (but this doesn't always work). She messes your room, you mess hers
The other is to be her pal and hang around her as much as you can. This drives them nuts and they want to get away from you
2007-01-12 15:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Buy your own lock (with a key or combination)and put it on your door yourself.
2007-01-12 14:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree.. it sounds like your are parents are raising a spoiled little brat. not really much you can do except to keep bugging your parents about it.
2007-01-12 14:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ JƏSSƏ'S GiRL ♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋