So there's this Boy...?

Question

I have a class with this guy I really like...my friends keep telling me I need to ask him out or ask him to prom. Prom is coming up and I would feel akward asking him. I really do wanna ask him out, but I don't wanna be rejected, because that would be totally embarassing. What should I do???

Answer 1

What does it tell you when you ask a question in a place like this and every answer is basicly the same? This is a sign. A unanimous verdict by the jury says "Go get em girl."

But they are not the ones who have to go through it, with the twisted stomach with butterflies, and the racing heart and the mind ticking at a mile a minute. It's easy to talk the talk than to walk the walk.

Many of the people who have answered have been through the same thing in the past, but their not explaining to you what you need to do within yourself before you can attempt something like this. Perhaps they don't know how to put it into words ...

First, you need to convince yourself that this is your only option. That's not true of course, because you are able to go to the prom alone, and it wouldn't be the end of your life, but you need to trick yourself into believing you must have a date. Think about the embarressment of asking one person on a date compared to the embarressment of being alone when every other person at your school is hooked up. Let that be the fire under your butt, motivating you to get up now.

Now think about how lucky you are that you have friends, your beautiful, and you have some idea of who you would like to go to the prom with, or on a date with. There are so many people who don't know this sort of information, or have the kind of moral support that you do. And there are especially lots of people who consider themselves ugly, for unjustifiable reasons like weight, hair, scars, etc. Knowing that you deserve someone is half the job, knowing that you are wanted by others is the other half, and the rest is the magical law of attraction.

Lastly, it takes courage to make the plunge, which is where most people pull out. Imagine walking to the beach with all your boogie boarding or surffing gear only to sit on the sand looking at the surprisingly big waves. Then wading into the whitewash to see the crash of the waves close up, and then chicken out at the last second. They'd never admit it, but that's exactly what most people do, unless they have other people around to help them through their fear.

Ask one or two of your closest friends to be there with you when you ask this boy you like on a date or to the prom. I can garantee you will not be sorry for having them with you, regardless of what happens. Moral support is the key to overcoming the taking of this plunge.

Good luck, and blessed be. :)
G.
PS Smile LOTS, and give him a wink when you say your punch line. Look him in the eyes, and maintain eye contact till after he gives you an answer. If he rejects you, smile again, thank him anyway, and say goodbye.

Answer 2

I will tell you that I was once in this situation and i did not ask him. Instead I went to prom with a group of friends, and saw him there with another date. I was devistated because he kept looking over at me with "the look". Therefore, I say go for it. If he does reject you, it will be his loss. If this is your senior prom then I can guarantee that a few months afterwards when you are graduated you wont even think about it.

Answer 3

It won't hurt to ask him, hurry before someone else does. You will never know unless you ask. Have a plan B and or C also. Then if not go with a group of girlfriends. What would be fun is renting a limo for all of you. But don't not go to your prom if you don't have a date. That is the night to get glammed up, try to have the hottest dress on. Something that I did going to the club years ago. Carry two dresses. Half the time wear one then before the night is over put the other one on. What fun !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

He doesn't want to be rejected either. Let him know (without telling him) that you like him. Have your girlfriends let it be known (at least to him) that you're totally into him and if he asked you to prom, you'd go. That way he gets to ask, but he's safe because he knows you'll say yes. And you're safe because you, well, don't have to ask. He's the one putting his neck on the line. Which won't be a problem if he knows you'll say yes. But you don't have to tell him.

Answer 5

now you know what every guy that asks you out is going through. Think about how you are feeling before you reject him.

But to answer you question, if you want the chance to get to know him and date him then you must ask him out. Accept the risk and go for it.

Answer 6

Here's what you do... complement him on something you find cute about him but make it seem innocent like" your smile reminds me of Brad Pitts smile " then laugh like your joking with him if he smiles your in you just hit to birds with one stone you just broke the ice and got you first flirt in. Now go for it ask him out somewhere for some good conversation so he can get to like you after that ask hi to prom. If you make it this far you got it in the bag.

Good luck!!1

Answer 7

well i'm only in 7th grade... but here's my opinion on this..... i think you should ask him out. if you really like him. being rejected is really embarassing. but the worst thing he can say is no. if he says no in a rude or mean way, then he isn't the right guy for you. and he probably doesn't deserve you either. good luck

Answer 8

ask him who is going with to the prom, if he says there's someone he's going with, then you're dead meat, but if he says there's no one, tell him that you're going with some friends, and invite him to come along, talk to him like a normal friend and say, "Hey if ya don't have anyone to go to prom with maybe we can go together, because no one's asked me yet" make him feel comfortable and I bet ya, he won't refuse.

Answer 9

walk passed and say casually wanna go to prom and keep walkin if the answer is yes he will follow you if its no you can brush it off like a joke and forget about it.

Answer 10

you should ask him to prom. if you don't you will regret it the whole prom... if you are rejected just be strong.... there is always someone else waiting