How can i be more outgoing and a better conversationist?

Answer 1

Be yourself naturally. Don't force a conversation out just for the sake of it. One way to be outgoing is to make eye contact with whoever you are speaking to. For example, everytime you buy something and pays the cashier, smile and make eye contact and say thank you or talk to a stranger in the lift. Greet him and ask how is his day.
Read up on current issues and tell your comments to whom you want to converse with. One thing that causes people to be afraid of being themselves is because of fear that others will have negative thinking of them. Hang out with outgoing people. We are who our friends are sometimes. Hanging out with outgoing people will eventually make you more like one of them. :)

Answer 2

Know a little bit about everything. Read your local newspaper to keep up on local issues, arts events, concerts, etc. Know your local area and it's attributes - parks, malls, music halls, good restaurants, etc. Even if you haven't been to all of them, they make good conversation openers. ("Hey, did you hear about that new restaurant downtown? I hear it's really good but I've never been there. Have you?")

Borrow a couple of best-selling books from the library. Be up on current music, TV, movies, as well as the classics. Read in depth about subjects that interest you, so when someone asks what you are interested in, you have knowledge to share with them.

Ask people open-ended questions about themselves.If you ask: "So, do you like being a doctor (or whatever occupation the person is)?" that only needs a yes or no answer. If you ask: "Tell me about where you work. I've always been interested in what doctors do." then the person has to go into more detail. Ask people about their kids or pets. They usually like to talk about them!

Relate what people do, say, or like to something or someone you know. If someone tells you they are a dentist, or like hiking, even if you don't know much about either, you can say "Oh, my brother likes hiking too". or "my cousin is married to a dentist", something like that.

Be passionate about something you do. People will notice your dedication to jogging, art, books, your pets, volunteering, something and they will usually remark on it. Speaking of pets, they are good conversation-openers. You can remark on how cute someone's dog is. That's a remark that's never ill-received!
If you have a dog, someone will probably talk to you about it. Cats aren't quite the social lubricants, unless you are at the home of someone (maybe, as a guest of a guest), you can remark on their cat. Even if you hate cats, or all pets in general, fake it. Frankly, I really don't like dogs but where I live, lots of people have dogs so I try to remark on the smaller ones and not look too disdainfully at the larger ones.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Practice in the mirror.. Watch the newest movies and read the newest books. That way you'll have something to talk about. Also stay in tuned with the news.

Answer 4

try to read some books magazines newpapers to know everything arounds you, then pratice it talk to different people with respect and open minded.