how do you tell her you dont love her?

Question

basically
i slept with her (it was her first time)
i told her i love her
i lied, i just wanted to sleep with her
then i was a jerk so shed stop loving me
its not working
how do i tell her i dont love her
without breaking her heart ??

Answer 1

You were a really big jerk and there is no way to tell her that you do not love her without breaking her heart. When you do tell her you should defintiley tell her in person and do not make up any stupid excuses like its not you its me. Just tell her that it wasn't working out and that you are sorry. You probably caused some emotional damage especially since you slept with her and it was her first time.

Answer 2

You are going to have to break her heart if you want to tell the truth. You lied to her and used her, she thought it meant something more to you than the sex, and that you could have had a future together, and you just wanted her body. Women hold that part of themselves sacred and try to make it special with the right man, one who will honor her gift and you just stole it.

I hope you feel guilty about what you did, because you should.

So are you trying to break up with her gently? Be honest--and stop with the lying. That is the most gentle thing you can do for her. And by the way?--Expect her to get nasty and throw a screaming fit when she finds out what you did, because there is no way you are getting out of this one...

Sometimes you got to take your punches, and this is one of those times.

Answer 3

You already broke her heart by being a jerk. That was not a very nice thing you did. Especially when you mentioned the three words. For women, when a man says he loves her we think it to be true. You have just ruined a young womans inspiration for future love. Because there will come a time in her life when another man will tell her the three words and she will doubt it because of you. In order to get rid of her like you meant to say, just tell her the truth. You used her just for the sex part. Believe me it will work for you in a snap. SHe will forever hate your guts, but what do you care, you got what you wanted didn´t you?

Answer 4

You just sneak out the back jack. Make a new plan Stan. Drop off the key Lee and get yourself free. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

shame on you. you cant
just be honest, and learn from the hurt you cause another human being. and dont do it again. sex is a drug. use it wisely
and understand and acknowledge what you have done, and feel in your heart you ruined someone's life. i know it is strong, but hey, you cant play with people

Answer 6

first of all,i hate it when guys do that. second, you can never tell her that without breaking her heart. girls who have experienced "it" for the first time will cling to the guy for as long as they can.cause she would've given you her virginity if she hadnt thought that you were serious. better tell her nicely or you could get killed.

Answer 7

you should have thought about that (with your other head) before you slept with her. the best thing to do is be honest with her and tell her. besides real, mature men don't play games!

Answer 8

Wow dude, you didnt do any part of this well, best thing now is just to be honest, I think you've hurt her enough anyway.

Answer 9

you really have to find a way to let her know.it is unfair to act badly and expect that she will know you are tired. face up to her and let her know, it would be much better than to lead her on.find a way, I know it wont be easy but it is something you really have to do, and you know this

Answer 10

well, its kinda hard 2 tell her w/out breaking her heart.... u took sumthing away from her that was important & u iddnt love her. u were a jerk 4 doing that & ur gonna break her heart no matter wat.