Hi.. Im not pregnant yet... my fiance and I are trying to have baby.. What's ur opinion when u want to make an annoucement that ur expecting? 3 months or 4 months? because my cousin made an annoucement thats shes expecting.. later a week... she lost her baby.. she was only 8 weeks pregnant.. so i was thinking what's ur opinion that u want to make annoucement thats ur expecting..which is the best time? 3-4 months? or 2nd trimester?
2007-01-12 13:28:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
People vary. In my family I told three people. I told them both to wait until at least 3 months before I told them. Yeah, well my mom told everyone in my family. She was just so excited that I couldn't be mad. I understood because I felt so much excitement I couldn't contain it. I think it depends on who you are. I just knew it would be hard if I had a miscarriage and someone ask how the pregnancy was going, but for some it just depends.
2007-01-12 13:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, the highest risk period of a pregnancy is the first trimester, which is 12 weeks. After 12 weeks, the embryo is then called a 'fetus'. If a person has had a history of miscarriage, I know the twelve week mark is when they can have that sigh of relief knowing they and bub have come through the period of a person's life which contains the most development and biggest size increase they will ever experience before or after birth. Generally the first twelve weeks is for bub's body to be formed, and from then on it just increases in size. So in answer to your question, I would wait till 12 weeks in case something does go wrong. But on the other hand, if something did go wrong would you want others to know for their support?
I guess it depends on you and your partners needs. Would you like your mother to know say, you were pregnant and then you miscarried, or to simply know you had a miscarriage? Do you think her support would be different? This is worse case scenario, and I've had three pregnancies and a miscarriage (boy, boy, miscarriage, twins), and I found the people that knew I was pregnant before I miscarried reacted differently to those who found our I'd had a miscarriage and not known I was pregnant before it. Am I making sense?!
So good luck, have fun trying and enjoy your full nights' sleep because before you know it you'll be yearning for a good nights' sleep!
And in answer to your 'announcement' question...I would tell the people who could support me the most through the worst case scenario when I got to probably 9 or so weeks, maybe 8 (if I couldn't contain myself!) and tell other people at 12 weeks. Bear in mind if your little you will start to show earlier (my belly started to look constantly bloated at 12 weeks, however if you've been pre stretched from a previous pregnancy you can show earlier) than if your cuddlier (and I think for a first pregnancy you start to show around 16 - 20 weeks) - make sure you let people you're pregnant before they guess cos I'd think that would take the fun out of sharing your news!!!!
2007-01-12 13:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by angela_ilma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how well you keep a secret (and this one is a hard one to keep). If you are good, then it is best to wait at least 12 weeks (2nd trimester). Usually if you are going to have a early miscarriage it would have happened by then. I know from experience (I lost my last pregnancy at 12 weeks) that it is very hard to have people asking how things are going and having to tell the story over and over again. Whatever method you choose to announce your pregnancy, do it because it is right for you.
2007-01-12 14:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to wait until you are 12 weeks. That is when the risk of miscarriage goes down to around 2%. I had 3 early miscarriages...between 7-8 weeks so I was cautious when I got pregnant with my son.
2007-01-12 13:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's such wonderful news that very few people want to hold back on making the announcement. I did want to wait a couple of mths, but my hubby was soo excited he couldn't wait 5 min to tell his family. As soon as I got the + sign we were off to their place for him to spread the news! So, I wish you good luck and make the announcement whenever you are ready. Next time I am gonna wait before I even tell my husband if I don't want it spread so soon!!
2007-01-12 14:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's soooo hard to keep something like that a secret for 3-4 months... and trust me, if you tell one person, they'll tell one person, who'll tell one person.
Just announce it when it feels right. Unfortuneately, bad things do happen... but you will have a huge support system with a good outcome or a bad outcome.
2007-01-12 13:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT tell him your mom is going out of city. Lie and say she purely went out for the nighttime. And make him go away till now your "mom" gets abode. Or lie and say your aunt is coming over to envision on you later or your mom stated you ought to stay at a kinfolk abode. particular he's looking forward to something. All adult males are hoping they could have intercourse. in case you dont understand this guy properly then ultimate factor is to no longer have him sleep over and to mislead him and make him think of somebody else is coming over that nighttime to "verify on you".
2016-10-07 02:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldn't keep it a secret that long i grew big too fast go until you feel its right both times i told when i was sure it was fairly obvious already bc i had the bump your suposidly supose to wait until the third trimester but if you are not really high risk and you healthy i don't see any reason too wait forever
2007-01-12 13:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would personally announce that Im expecting right away, but again it's my opinion... good luck with the trying to concieve.
2007-01-12 13:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋