hes hot, he was great in the beginning of this relationship. but when i rushed into things, everything changed. i felt used and emotionally abused. on new years day he broke up with me after we did it for the last time. i feel hurt because i gave up my innocence to him. the day he broke up with me, he told me he had been talking to another girl and he thinks he's inlove with her. and that he couldnt see himself being with me in the future. it really hurt. this situation may sound cliche but its a serious matter i dont know what i can do. ive tried keeping myself busy its just i cant stop thinking about the things we've been through these past 5 months. i'll always look at my cellphone thinking he'd call me...i mean he doesnt even want to be friends. you know how hard it is to accept. to think that hes doing some other girl....omg help. should i put a fake ultrasound under his doorstep or something?!!!!!! am i going insane or is this just simply a phase im going through.
2007-01-12 13:27:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the first love always hurts the most. let him go now. remember him for the good. maybe in the future he will grow up and u guys can be friends
2007-01-12 13:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly the answer to this question is one you wont believe right now, I was with my ex who I lost my virginity to for 2 1/2 years, and then she slept with someone else, so I know what you are going through. It really does get better, I thought things were all over for me and now 6 months on, I met someone so amazing it puts my past relationships to shame. Just be positive, there really are better people for you out there, even though there is no way you believe that right now, you think Im wrong and that I dont know what you had, right? Yours was a different kind of love. Thats how it feels and it takes a long time to deal with sometimes. If it was meant to be he wouldnt have gone off with another woman, think of it as a lucky escape and have fun with your friends and just live life the best you can, it will get better, I promise. Good Luck.
2007-01-12 13:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new man to flirt with and distract you, or some distraction start a new hobby, pick up a sport, exercise!! It is a great way to relieve tension and stress and stop focusing so much on this man--he doesn't deserve you!!
It's easy enough to say--but you need to take steps and begin the grieving process to get over him. Because you will be mourning his loss as if someone died in your life.
Another reason why women should not get involved in a sexual relationship too soon with a man. For a woman--she almost always gets emotionally attached and her body puts out chemicals that make her addicted to the man and the sex--dopamine. It is very difficult to get over and for the man---he can just walk away without hardly feeling anything. Sex for him was just a physical act like relieving himself in the restroom or something.
Take heart and know it will get easier, but you are special and you need to respect yourself so you can find a man that respects you!
2007-01-12 13:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a phase but what it really says is that you were emotionally NOT ready to have this physical relationship. You didn't list your age but know these feelings are not permanent and although you hurt now chalk it up to lessons learned. Yes, you gave your virginity and will not get it back but you can begin again. Do whatever you have to to get this guy off your mind. Take a walk, read a book, join a club, get a job, but do something that keeps your mind busy and your feelings will subside in time. I know it feels like the end of the earth now but it does get better! Good Luck to you!
2007-01-12 13:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that is so cruel! I don't know what to tell you sweetie. If I'm in the same situation as you then I would cry to death! I would hate him so much that I would kill him. But no no, don't do that please, that's not going to give your virginity back.
um... I think the only way you can find happiness again is to think it in another aspect. Think it this way, you've chosen the wrong person to give yourself to, and you've made the biggest mistake ever and you can't change it. But, you can just take it as a lesson. To never trust any one so easily anymore. It's a precious lesson isn't it? You've learned from your mistakes and now forget about him because he's a trash, throw him to the trashcan and be a happy new you. You do not care about him, and you have to believe in yourself. You are strong and independent. Kick him out of your life.
2007-01-12 13:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by love2you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try the fake pregnancy thing. It will only make you look like a psycho. My advice go on hang out with your friends go see a movie. Catch up with the gossip & whatever teenage girls do. Don't let another player get that close again and hurt you. He is a player by the way and he will just hurt the next girl and the next and so on. I doubt you were the first girl he did this too.Tell your friends about it so they can make you feel better. Talking about what a jerk he is. Eventually you won't even know what you saw in him..
2007-01-12 13:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals everything. He did you a favor by breaking up with you now, not that he should have been sleeping with you while he had feelings for someone else. If you want to get over him, think about how poorly he treated you. Atleast you aren't married or pregnant or something where it would be a much more difficult situation. Try to move on and forget him. Good luck!
2007-01-12 13:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simply a phase. It might take a long time for you to get over him given that you gave such an important part of yourself to him. Don't seek him, if it's meant to be he will realize what a big mistake he made and will come back to you.
NO man deserves you being all depressed about. I have gone through some heartbreak myself, and believe me, it will be better with time. Time heals all wounds.
Keep your chin up, there is someone out there for you who will realize what a wonderful person you are and will treasure you for who you are, not just for giving it up to him.
Good luck to you!!
2007-01-12 13:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshineluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the drama....... You said it yourself.... You Rushed Into It!! He's moved on.... and so should you. He used you and treated you badly. Granted, he was your first... and you can't get your virginity back. He may have pressured you, or you felt it was necessary to keep him. That was a hasty decision on your part, and hopefully you've learned a little about how cruel young guys can be, and how they take advantage of girls. You need to be a better judge of character to protect yourself from being hurt so easily. Forget this one... he's not worth worrying about. Find someone who will respect you and treat you well.
2007-01-12 13:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious issue. One of my friends, she was with this guy for a while and she thought she was in love with him. then he broke up with her in a instant for another girl. and then when that didn't work out, he tried to come back to her like everything was cool like nothing happened. All the advise i can give you is try to forget about him. i know it's going to be hard, but if he is the type of guy to take your innocence and then leave for another girl, i would just forget about him. It's gonna be hard, but please try to follow my advice, in the long run your gonna be alot better. right now you are driving your self crazy waiting by your cell phone.
2007-01-12 13:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to get over your first and if it helps you any I went through the same thing let me tell you I went through it with him and when we broke up I was a mess. But you have to get your self together and move on and just to put light at the end of you tunnel " If it was ment to be it will be" With me after I got myself together girl he was chasing back after me and now I was in control I was able to make him see what he was missing by being myself and keeping it together you just have to pull yourself up and remeber who you are and that if he doesn't want you it is his lost girl move on I know it is easier said then done ( believe me ) but we are women and god made us strong so you can do it ( smile )
2007-01-12 13:36:25 · answer #11 · answered by passion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋