and i've never been on a date. i've been asked, but i'm too shy to go with them. but i'm not too shy to do other things. i dont understand myself sometimes. how can i get over this stupid shyness? there's a guy that lives in the same town i do and i really want to meet him but i'm soooo scared. what should i do?
2007-01-12 13:08:30 · 8 answers · asked by atreyu17244 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i am afraid of rejection, like everyone. and i'm used to being the girl that guys only want to have sex with. so finding someone thats interested in more then that is new and weird to me for some reason.
2007-01-12 13:19:08 · update #1
Relax and take a deep breath. I wish you lived in my town so we could go on practice dates and learn from each other.
I know by this time everyone our age has more experience and know what to do, and we don't have a clue. Kids in Jr high schools have more experience then us and that makes us feel even worst.
Its not like you don't know what the motions are but having never done them before make us so nervous.
I think you did the right thing asking on here and some of these people with experience will have good tips for you, as for me, I will just let you know where I am at.
First, Don't do anything you feel you shouldn't have to.
Two, Don't be intimidated. There is not any thing you should be scared of, especially from a person you would want to have a relationship with.
Third, Try to be always ready for potential of a date. I myself try to look as attractive as I can so that i am ready if any girls out there might like me.
That is pretty much as far as I have gotten, but if I go on a date I will let you know how it was and what happened and what to expect.
Good luck
2007-01-12 13:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Brown Bomber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to give you an answer since you don't really say what you're scared of. Guys are typically afraid of rejection (which is funny... since the only thing a rejection will really do is put you where you already were. Its not like you actually lose anything by trying!). Girls are usually afraid that they aren't "good enough" for the guys they want to date (you're not pretty enough, too fat, not interesting, etc.)... which is funny since being on the date in the first place means you're passed at least SOME of those issues and the whole purpose of the date os to find out if you BOTH can pass the others. Once again, you lose nothing for trying.
So date! If its awful, you'll laugh about it one day. If its so-so, you'll learn something. But, if its great... well... you'll find that out on your own! :)
2007-01-12 21:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by gooniekim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the absolute worse that can happen? Oh, ok, he DOESN'T like you, big deal. There's always someone else. You're scared because you don't want to be rejected, but, if you never feel rejection than you will never escape your dating rut. Allow it, let it happen, after you go out on your first date you'll feel so much better, even if you ARE rejected and he doesn't call you back or whatever.
You can do it, just give it a try.
2007-01-12 21:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a group of friends together. do things together(make sure the guy is included) this way, you both can relax and have fun without all the pressure of being on a first date. you get to know a little about the guy in a casual setting. so if you think its a go, the next time he asks, you will be ready.
2007-01-12 21:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your shyness, it's all mental... if you say you are shy, then you'll be shy, if you say you are smart... you'll be smart... just enojy you life! think about it... what if this was the man of your life?... some things in life are best to be done when you're given the chance to do them... go ahead and date him... there's nothing to be scared about...
2007-01-12 21:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by L007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really a shy person too but i find the best way to handle that is to just pretend that your not you for a couple mins and just introduce yourself...you never know until you try right
2007-01-12 21:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Marlena B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few drinks. It will help you loosen up and get over your shyness.
2007-01-12 21:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by tydurd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this fog and go after your man. You can do it, I know you can. Love is beautiful and worth working for. You go girl!:)
2007-01-12 21:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋