Have todays parents lost control of their children?

Question

I may be from the old school, but I am seeing more and more rude, unmanagable chirdren. My wife is a school teacher and she says the same thing. Seems like today many parents can't raise their kids with discipline for fear that the kids "may like like us". I remember as a kid, if I got crossways with the teachers at school, all it would take to smarten me up was the dreaded "I'm going to call your parents". Why dosen't that work anymore? Is it because most parents won't make their children take responsibility for their actions? We not only provide love and guidance to our kids, but have taught them manners and respect as well, why can't other parents do this?? What can be done to " take back" the kids today.Your thoughts?

oopps! Thats "Children" sorry for the typo!

Answer 1

I teach high school, and it seems that today's parents are so uninvolved in not only their kids' educations, but in their discipline, that the kids act out in ways that I would have never thought of (and I'm only about 15 years older than most of my younger students). Our hands are tied at school, and parents (many of them) don't discipline their kids, or at least it doens't do any real good. I don't know what we can do. Take away some extras and start acting like parents instead of friends.

Answer 2

I also feel that alot of it is because people are letting everyone Else raise there children.That's why i have chosen to be a stay at home mom. My husband works to full time jobs around 110hrs a week so that i can do this. You tell me how a child that is in a daycare with 10 or 15 other kid sis getting the one on one time and attention that they need? Its impossible. I understand that in some family's that it just doesn't work for one parent to stay home. But if you really think about it every one talks about the old days. What happened in the old days mothers stayed at home with there children. I feel that parents are not involved enough. I also feel like now parents are to quick to label there children add adhd or whatever. You have a problematic child oh just give them this pill that will make it all better. I do understand some children might need this but i feel way to many parents just use it as an excuse for poor parenting. I also feel that there is not enough emphases on getting children involved in things any more. Like sports, and after school programs.

Answer 3

I agree 100%! My kids stand out from the rest because we have raised them with some of the old fashioned ways. My kids friends come and go as they please, make all their own decisions without even consulting their parents, they think the world owes them and they are always spouting about all these "rights" that they have. UGH! With everyone suing each other over everything these days, how can kids learn to take responsibility or have accountability for their actions? When we were kids, if someone would have burned themselves because they put hot coffee between their legs, they would have just said what a dummy I am, now it's you didn't mark the coffee with caution hot liquid. Common sense is gone. How can kids feel cared about and safe left totally on their own? They say they want that, but they really don't deep down. It's part of growing up. All these kids that have done the school shootings, the main thing they all have in common is they feel like they don't belong and no one is paying attention to them. How sad and so preventable! We need to get back to the old school stuff. Teachers need to be able to have some authority back and not be afraid of being sued by little Susie's daddy, who's gone all the time, just for giving Susie heck for her late homework. My other pet peeve is that no one is teacxhing kids tolerance and acceptance anymore for people who are different. They see someone different and they just don't let up on them. It gets pretty viscous. So needless. As a kid that was incorporated into our school day, we learned that just because someone is different, doesn't make them less human. I feel that prayer should be back in school. If there are different religions, maybe it could be used as a learning tool about each other and different cultures. Heck even learning about atheism can be a learning tool. I would love to just go back to the way things were. I could go on and on but I better stop for now! Take care! Contact me if you would like!

Answer 4

I have to agree . My daughter is 4 and in pre school. I went to her classroom to help out and I could not believe that the children talk like this.
All i heard out of this boys mouth was f this and f that. I am 21 and I don't even talk like that.
I think the parents have no control over there children because of people making stupid laws. I feel if a kid acts up that bad that you want to spank them than you should be able to. I mean the kids threaten there parents with I am calling child abuse or the cops. The cps people now even say putting a child in time out is child abuse. With these stupid laws how are you sup-post to discipline your children? Parents need to stop being there children;s friends and be a parents and discipline.

Answer 5

Pick up your Bible. Look in the concordance for the word 'rod'(means tree branch, or switch as we call it), read all the things God said about the 'rod'. These are truths. God knew what He was talking about. People think that to punish their children is abuse. What is abusive is the children that are not punished. Forget all the crap you hear about time out, taking away things that they like, etc. Cut you a good switch, or better yet, make the child cut it with the understanding that it better be a good one, and put that switch on that rear end. The bigger the kid, the bigger the switch. People do not listen to God, and it brings about disaster. This has not just started. My generation (46 years old) and the one behind us are miserable failures as parents. The Dept. of Children & Families has literally ruined this country. They cause undue problems where they are not needed, and fail at solving problems when they are needed. Whipping that butt is NOT abuse, parents! Take back your children's respect and they will be grateful later in life. My mother beat my rear end regularly when I did wrong, and I have NEVER been in trouble with the law, or locked up for anything.

Answer 6

Yep. I too have those kids who are not respectful as they should be, and show no fear of adult authority. And we did try a spell of spanking , to no avail. I think (and i bet your wife might agree), a large part of the problem is we are not raising our kids anymore. Everybody works to support the family, so daycares, babysitters, hoards of other kids are now helping to raise our children, whereas years ago they were home with the mother when they weren't in school. And kids had more responsibility, if certain chores didn't get done, the whole family suffered. To me that is the biggest thing we need to impart on our kids is a sense of responsibility for their actions, and their lives, maybe if they can be responsible for themselves, then they can respect others.

Answer 7

there are just too many people who have children without any thought about actually raising them. they think they can just send them off to daycare or the babysitter or school and let someone else take over. Children need love, guidance and good role models and there are too many kids who don't get those basic needs met.its hard for a child to respect a parent that isn't doing their job. i think this next generation of teens-kids may be able to change all this though because they can see where their own parents went wrong and want to change that. while there are kids who are completely disrespectful there are also alot of kids who are very mature and aware of the world around them. a little hope maybe for years to come

Answer 8

Children these days that have no respect for adults are more than likely raised by adults that have no respect for anyone either. I am amazed at how ignorant and inconsiderate grown people are these days. I am 32 been married 16 years and have 4 children ranging from 15 to 5. My children are not on medication, are not ADHD, are well mannered and, you will not here my children acting psychotic in public. I do believe in an occasional spanking or pop in the mouth if deserved. I got it when I was a child and I survived and do not hate my parents for it! Slapping a child for doing something wrong does not encourage child abuse and it does not encourage your child to hit!? It simply says you are the boss and what you say GOES!!! I am raising my children to respect other people and their belongings, something other parents need to teach too!!! I believe that we need etiquette classes in schools because soooo many adults obviously need them too. I don't know if I am just lucky by having good kids but, do think that the morals and love my parents instilled in me have made me the good parent that I am today.

Answer 9

People are afraid to discipline their children today b/c they believe spanking leads to psychos and murderers... they believe if they smack their childs hand that they will be hauled in by social services. Parents are to afraid to try and discipline their children and I don't understand why. I do see alot of kids out there that are rude and so unmanegable. I was terrified when the teachers were going to call my parents... lol even when i joined the military and i got in trouble once... yes i am stupid.. but i thought they were going to call my parents and tell them.. i know stupid... lol. But still i see alot of adults that are rude also so they can be just picking it up from them also. This is the reason I don't want to teach anymore. I used to grow up and would look forward to teaching and now all I hear about is kids shooting kids, kids shooting teachers, teachers shooting kids, and etc etc etc... I don't understand what has happened to our children and adults anymore. What has changed? But you do bring up a really good point. kudos

Answer 10

Because alot of parents are lazy and want the easy way out. They want someone else to discipline their children. Convenient parenthood in a box. Parenting is hard work, just like marriage. They are also scared to spank their children nowadays for fear of social services taking the kid away for abuse. Some parents work long hours and when they come home they are exhausted.