Shes not even 18 yet, im 36. Thats not even the bad part though, shes my sons girlfriend. Im not sure what this is... do I really like her or is it just because i know I shouldnt like her ? Ive talked to people about it, a friend whos a therapist, other friends and they all say the same thing "I need to get over it" but why can't I ? Shes so pretty and funny and sweet and caring but it doesn't matter, shes my sons girlfriend. i NEED to stop thinking about her. Please help.
Or do you think when they break up I could possibly ask her out ?
2007-01-12 12:58:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get on it!
2007-01-12 13:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by radiokiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to find a way to get over it. Just think if you had a teenage daughter and a man your age was thinking of her in the way you are! And for the love of God do not even think of asking her out-you will forever damage your relationship with your son. He will never trust you-and again put yourself in his position-what if your father asked out your girlfriend?? Like everything else this too shall pass..
your feelings are strong and temptation is tough but you simply have a "crush" and to act on that will be very damaging because it is very unlikely she will be flattered or interested. Remember when you were a teenager? -36 is completely "old"
Its not worth it-move on-
2007-01-12 13:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your son to disown you, make an effort to stop looking at her when she's around. Go to another room if she's at your home and read a book or do something else to distract your thoughts. Should they break up, keep clear away from her if, you really love your son and want your son to mantain the respect for you. It is a bad image for a father to fall into such traps tempted by the devil. You will sure suffer the consequences later on in life.
2007-01-12 13:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyway, i'm not just going to scream at you that ur a psycho, cuz you're not. its perfectly normal to have a crush on somebody half your age, or even 1/3 your age - so long as it stays that. just a crush. from a scientifical point of view, men are here to reproduce themselves. that's essentially it. so, from that view, age doesn't matter. she's a virile young female, and you're attracted to her. but the important thing is not to pursue this crush; as you said she is under 18, which makes this vastly illegal. everybody else has said it, but it is true - in time, this will run its course and you will forget about her. its a natural thing to have happen. this could also be some form of midlife crisis, albeit at age 36. you are subcounciously attempting to reassure yourself that you are just as masculine as your son (sounds gross, but its fairly common). some people buy a corvette; you have a crush on your son's girlfriend. as i said before, it will run its course. but whatever you do, DO NOT pursue it, it is very ill advised. i hope this helps. good luck.
2007-01-12 13:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by computer_dude_15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ick " is the first thing that comes to my mind. If you put the moves on your sons gf he would totally hate you for that. What the real issue is YOU COULD BE HER FATHER ! Now , honeslty if you had a daughter and her bf dad liked her you probably have a HUGE problem with that.
Don't be a dirty man ...do the right thing. Find someone your own age.
2007-01-12 13:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by *Alice* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? It seems that you are entering the foolish forties syndrome. Having a mid-life crisis, are we? Get a grip! Find someone your own age and stop fantasizing about what you can't have and it may blow your self image, but I'm doubtful that she is attracted to you in the same way.
2007-01-12 13:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's dating your son, which obviously means she's not interested in you.
She's barely legal, and you should NEVER attempt to date your son's ex girlfriends.
You need to move on, and realize it's not going to happen. What if your son continues a relationship, and maybe even marries her? You cannot continue lusting after your SON'S love interests.
2007-01-12 13:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
defintley dont ask her out, it would be soo awkard with u and ur son, and u could be arrested,if someone saw yall like making out or something then they could call the polive b/c they would think something other then yall going out was going on so i wouldnt stand a chance like that and to top it off,U GROSS SICKO PERVERTED!!
2007-01-12 13:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi0708 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think but I know that you need a lot more sessions with the therapist.
2007-01-12 13:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your friends & therapist
GET OVER IT
& no I dont think it would be a good idea to ask her out if they break up
2007-01-12 13:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has the qualities that your ex wife/sons mother didn't have. Or maybe she reminds you of someone else you once cared about.
2007-01-12 13:05:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋