How shoud I break up with my girl friend?

Question

We've been together now for about 3 or 4 months. I still love her, but it's just not the same. There's really nothing wrong. It's just that she keeps talking about us being together for a long time, and now that we're going to go to the same college, she says, "good, another year we can spend together... [before I go on a religious mission for my church when i turn 19]"
I feel like we're too young to talk about being together for so long. We're both only 17, I just can't stand to be with one girl for such a long time, I need to date all kinds of girls, especially before I get out of high school.
How can I break up with her with out hurting her feelings. I know she loves me a lot, what can I do?!?!

Answer 1

break up with her if you don't love her...

Answer 2

Sadly, the love we experience when we're so young rarely lasts forever. Most of us need to go through several relationships before we find the person we spend the rest of our lives with. I agree with you that someone your age needs to date more people.
John, sorry...but there is really no way that you can break up with her without hurting her feelings. There's no other way than being completely honest with her; I think it's best to tell her everything you posted in your question, be gentle, and let her know that she's special to you and she'll always have a place in your heart. Yes, she may be heartbroken; but we all experience it sometimes, and it's part of the process known as "growing up".

Answer 3

The first thingis to sit her down face to face. She will appreciate this soo much more. Tell her that you been really thinking and in order for things to be right you need to take sometime to think things through. You feel like you two are too young especially with all the plans and goals each one of you have for the future. You both need to focus on those things. Tell her if it is meant to be you two will end up together but right now you feel like things are moving too fast. Tell her that you care about her and that's why you feel the need to say something now before things get complicated-good luck buddy

Answer 4

if you've only been together for 3 or 4 months i doubt if you're in love. if you were, you would have know it from the beginning and you wouldn't want to leave her if you felt this way. I think you're just a nice guy and don't want to hurt her. tell her that you think you guys are too young to commit yourself to one another, and that you're having second thoughts about being together..let her know it has nothing to do with her, just that you don't feel it's the best thing for you guys. you'll be off to college, and are going to meet dozens of people, you may find your true love there.
when you find the person you are supposed to be with, you'll just know they are the one. you'll be content in every way, and would never think of leaving. ask her if she feels this way.

Answer 5

You have to realize that you are going to truely hurt, it even may scar her for life because she loves you, even though you don't have the same feeling like she has for you. I would stay with her, the grass isn't greener on the other side. Just see where it takes you and than do it, but out of respect, stay friends with her until she meets someone, she won't be that hurt are even despressed.

Answer 6

you're just going to have to break it to her straight. have a nice little sit down with her. don't be like "hey i'm breaking up with you b/c..." right off the bat. just make sure that she knows that what you're doing is something that you really FEEL, in your heart, that you shold do. and it could turn out to be mutually beneficial, that it would be good for both of you.

and it's ALWAYS comforting to tell her that you'll still remain in contact with her/remain friends.

Answer 7

have you tried comunicating with her because as far as she is concered thee nothing wrong, if she knew something was wrong she would see and could try and make room, and once thats solved maybe your feelings will go back, before making any decision like this in a relationship you should be talking to her not us, and comunication is vital, and if you stil dont feel the same tell her that but make sure its away from memories as you dont want to ruin them, cause i sure you had good time with her, but dont make her think it is her fault cause if she is a good girld then she would beat herself up and find it hard to move on, good luk

Answer 8

Hun no matter what you do its still gonna hurt her feelings just sit her down in a place where she is ok and just tell her and give her a reason just not the whole its over thing give her a good reason it will make it alot better

Answer 9

You need to be honest with her so that she understands whats going on and how you feel. People usually get hurt when there's a question lingering in their minds about why things ended. Good luck.

Answer 10

I'd say start punching her in the stomach for atleast a few hours. If she doesnt pass out, she'll definately understand that u dont want to date her anymore. If that doesnt work then throw a table at her.

Answer 11

Lets start with this, YOUR A MEGA JERK!!! You still love her but you want to break up??? WTF???????!!!!!! You want to break up with a girl that you love and she loves you back because you want to go out there and date a variety of girls??? think about it. Your going to throw away someone that you love just to have a bucnh of relationships with other girls that you wont even have a good connection with. You are making a huge mistake, you should stick with someone that you love and if you still love her your going to make yourself miserble. You making a huge mistake. You shouldnt breakup with her. But if you have to make sure you do it in person. Any other way is trashy unless its a long distance relationship.