you up....and starts asking you personal questions...WOW!!! you do not REALLY KNOW HER...MET HER AS AN ACQUAINTANCE.....anyway,, she says...'I UNDERSTAND YOU OWN A HOUSE, WHAT ARE YOU PAYMENTS?"..i was shocked ...i politely said.."oh, that is personal"...then she pauses and so do you.....then she boldly asks.."how much money do you make?"...I WAS SHOCKED AGAIN...i said politely.."that is personal and private.."...she starts gettting mad...i just say .."I have to go!!'''...and i just HANG UP!!! what is her problem.????..and IF SHE IS TRYING TO PROTECT HER BROTHER her tactics are wrong!!! i have told him...wow!! WHAT A SHOCKER!! just tell me your honest take on that scenerio!!! whew!!!
2007-01-12 12:31:49 · 24 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree it isn't any of her buissness what you make or what your payments are like. She has no right to ask you such questions. I would tell her it isn't any of her buissness to ask such questions. And let her know you don't appreciate being asked such things.
2007-01-12 12:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by mommyramey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur boyfriend about what she did and just hold ur on. THe way it sounds to me is that she just wants to make sure that u r not after his money. R if u could talk to her about this try to talk to her about what she is getting at with her personal questions b/c if she is really nice she may just want to help out with something instead of a wedding gift or she may have heard how much the bills r and is worried that yall r not going to make it. or maybe she is thinking about getting a house of her own and wants to know what to expect there is so many possiblities.
2007-01-12 20:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nosey controlling gossip queen. I'de stay away from her and tell her as little as possible. Also sounds like she will try to be your friend to get info out of you and then stab you in the back. She may think that since your almost a part of the family she wants to know how friendly to be to you. You know, who ever has the most money or things can benefit "them/her" the most!!
2007-01-12 20:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nosey rude b***h, is what she is. This is actually the time to find out what kind of man you are going to marry. If you ask him to ask his sister to knock off all of that silly crap and he tells you something like "oh that's her way ignore her" dump him he will never back you with his family on the really big things. If he says okay and actually does it, he's a keeper.
you said and did the right things. That is not normal behaviour for a sister.
2007-01-12 20:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont think much about it, any family member can be concerned and act like that, its just natural. I wouldnt really think of it as a surprise kind of thing cause marriage itself is a big deal, of course people will question you on things. If you were never questioned at all after being engaged that would pretty much mean that no one cares about you or the one you're engaged to, so try to think of it as people just caring.
2007-01-12 20:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mark F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be ready to have a monster as a sister-in-law. I hope she changes...that would suck to have someone interrogating you. Kudos for keeping your calm on the phone. Next time I would just say, I thought I was marrying your brother, so I don't see the need for your interrogation. Be up front with her, and talk to your fiance, and let him know how you feel about it. Congrats by the way.
2007-01-12 20:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is not right to be asking you those questions. it is YOUR buisness...and that shouldnt have any effect with your and your ''soon to be husband''. if she doesnt want her brother and you to get married, ALL WELL, who cares about her. REALLY! try ignoring her so she cant talk to you. you are going to be sister-in-laws soon, so mabe she was just trying to make you mad, or simply trying to get used to you. Im not saying that what she said was right, but do you know if she has any sort of brain damage? Well, you should try to get to know her more, or ignore her. The choice is yours.
2007-01-12 20:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by taylor c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definately 'has a screw loose'
Get you fiance to speak to her and tell her to not call again unless she is going to act nicely (worth a try)
Just cause you are marrying him doesnt mean you have to put up with her
Good luck !!
2007-01-12 20:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be kidding me....ask her the same questions and see if she likes it. Maybe they think you in this relationship foir the money and they feel they will not be getting any from him when you in the picture.
2007-01-12 20:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
!st of all i would have told her that i'm not marry you i'm marrying your brother and second i would have told my fiance that if it's something he needs to be reassured of and is getting cold feet speak now or forever hold your peace.......Tell him you are marrying him not his family, but family seems to think other wise so to warn you this is just the beginning of someone getting all up in yo business.........be prepared
2007-01-12 20:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋