Ok i feel really unsafe around my dad, he gets really mad at me alot for no good reasons, and he looks for small things just to punish me, he use to hit me when i was young but since my mom has a restraining order im always alone and hes always at his girfriends and im not sure what i should do, he also does drugs i believe and im seriously getting ready to stop doing stuff he says and if he hits me one more time,id be ready to call the cops and get my mom back in this house and him out! but im really confused if i should do this or not? or is there somthing better, cos im all out of ideas and im desperate
2007-01-12 12:30:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i forgot to say, that my mom is living with my grandman at the moment and is 15minutes car drive away so staying with her isnt a option at the moment
2007-01-12 12:52:27 · update #1
I'd say talk to your mom and move with her but if she has a restraining order in place for herself and not for you then I guess she's not the type of mama to stick up for her child. I'm sorry for that. Tell your teacher or counselor at school. They will take the steps to make certain that you are safe and that it won't happen again. If you do it that way then your parents are less likely to blame you. Remember... NO MATTER WHAT... you are NOT to blame! Good luck! I'll be praying for you. God bless!
2007-01-12 12:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom for her help. If you are afraid let your mom protect you. There's a reason why she has an order of protection. She can go to court and demand that if you see your father that a third party be present at your visitations. Im not sure what agency that does supervised visits but a good social worker from school or child abuse hotline can give you further information. Do not try to handle this without an adults help. You have to put your safety first. Don't remain silent any longer.
2007-01-12 12:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by LEELEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom can't drive 15 minutes for you, or get to you by asking for a ride, then what can she do...YOUR MOTHER IS AN OPTION... don't cut her out of your options.... lets say there is a restraining order. that's for your mom's protection and maybe you.
your father had a legal right to spank you and disapline you some how you are led to believe you have a power over your father, that you can put him in jail or something in that nature. Just imagine for a while of that power that you think you have. Now you apply it, the most they can do is take you away from him for ever.. is that what you want... then be prepared to live with your mother where she is now. cause thats the way it will be.
Just cause you hear your mother or someone say your father does drugs that does not mean he does drugs, thats why there are drug test. lets say you accuse him of that, sooner or later you will see your father again. your father also has the right to find himself another girlfriend or wife. that means your father is a normal human being who wants to love and be loved. ...as for as him hitting you when you were young, that is the past. as for as leaving you alone while he sees his girlfriend. Just how old are you? in my city if you are 14 years old you can be left alone till 10:00 pm., each city has their own laws, those are called city ordinance and each state has their own laws. I bet you have not told your father you are afraid to be left alone. I bet if you tell him, he will leave you with an adult friend of his...each parent has their own way, try to learn from them both the good things and just grow wise and don't resent them.
2007-01-12 22:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I too grew up in an abusive home and it is no fun. Call child protective services or the police. Then get into some theraphy and rebuild your life.
God Bless and I will pray for you:)
2007-01-12 12:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to protect yourself. Don't wait for him to hit you, call CPS, or the cops even and tell them that you dont feel safe living there.. and that you want to live with your mom
2007-01-12 12:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the police. You need help. This is not something that you should be expected to do all by your self. When you feel the time is right, call the police.
2007-01-12 12:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you pray and ask God to do because sound not to good you need to talk to someone about this asp
2007-01-12 12:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋