Me and other people 'bully' this kid in class..?

Question

Is this wrong.. okay, I'm not a bully, never have been.. I am pretty popular.. 6th period, there's this girl, she's like HUGE, short, and her butt is bigger than her whole body.. she has acne and a point nose.. i'm sorry, but this is true.. and like I never really talked to her or was mean to her until EVERYONE in the class started being mean to her and saying things like, 'where'd you get your jacket? Walmart?' and 'It was so much better when you weren't here' and my boy jr were saying "Do you want to give rey a bl.ow.job" and "is your cherry popped" and she said YEAH, I guess she didn't know what it meant.. but is this mean of me to do this..?? I feel bad.. but I don't want to be the only one not doing it.. I'm in 8th grade.

to the dumba.ss who said "with those glasses" or w.e. .. they are called STUNNER shades.. learn FASHION, retard.

haha, if your kid doesn't own my hat or glasses, then I bet big money they get bullied.. trends, trends, trends.

Well I did ask her after school today "Do you cry because of what we say" or something like that and she was like "Hell ******** no, I don't give a ***** about them.. ***** you and them" and all she said was the F word.. she cusses like crazy.. but does she mean that she doesn't care?

nah, if it was 'gay' then tell me why I have all the honeys at me school? you just wish you were fresh az- i - iz.

Answer 1

You described a grim situation. Someone before me called you an asshole and a punk. You're not feeling too good- I'm sure. And yet, a part of me is glad. Julio, I think that you knew the answer before you even typed the question.

You should not bully this girl.

I could tell you that this girl is probably a really cool person and that you shouldn't judge her by her looks. But that may not be true. Honestly, there are some people without beauty or brains. The fact of the matter is, that she is a person, and there is probably something good in her as there is in all of us. I like to believe that given the right conditions, we can all be great people. Come on, you've definitely seen people that were raised by dumb parents and now they're all messed up. Even growing up without money can be rough, can cause someone to become desperate, to age prematurely, to lead a dishonest life just to raise some money. **** happens.

Now consider this: It's 8th grade- this girl is probably going through one of the most difficult periods in her life. Why bully her? I mean, really, looking at the insults... I mean, I thought they were kind of dumb. Especially since she can't help a lot of these things. Maybe she has trouble buying clothes for herself. Maybe her family is poor. Maybe she doesn't know what those terms meant because she is so isolated from people. Didn't you learn a lot of the dirty words from friends? Poor girl.

Okay, so you know it's wrong. But you don't want to be the only one.

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Dude, are you serious? Why do you even give a ****? Screw them. Like you need them. If you want to stay "popular" (whatever that means), do your own things. Respect yourself and dick around. If you always follow people, you may get to hang with a so called "popular group", and I've seen people, many people do that. Only, everybody else looks at them and says, "Ew, that person is such a follower. He doesn't have his own opinions." Like, you can't trust a suck-up, am I right? Julio, stay strong and do your thing. Try to encourage your friends to stop, too. Trust me, even if at first you're met with resistance, in the end, I'm sure that these people will respect you. (And from a girl's perspective, a guy who stands up for someone else and for what he believes in is hot.) And if they don't, then, I don't know what to tell you, maybe you shouldn't hang out with these guys.

So, yeah, that was a long response. Heh, sorry. Julio, I'd love it if you emailed me. The sn is my email address at yahoo. Lots of love,

avivagirl88

P.S. She's really hurt. If she cursed so profusely man, she's hurt. It's obvious that she's trying to act tough. And look, you may not like her, but just leave her alone, mostly, and treat her like a human being.

P.P.S. Hey, some advice about trends: Some are cool; some are downright stupid. It can be a huge waste of money and you shouldn't judge someone by his clothes.

Answer 2

If everyone jumped off of a bridge would you? Would you love to be teased and taunted the way you do that person?
It does not matter where you get your clothes, just as long as you have clothes cause some people in this world can't even afford clothes. Do you know they have that no bullying law in place now and you and the school can be sued.?(Your parents as well)

Making fun of how her looks are may come back on you when you have kids.
What you put out you will get back 3 times worse.
Think about it would you just love it if someone picked on your little brother or sister?
You are sexually harrassing the girl too with those sexual remarks that you think its oh so funny.
No one likes a bully so keep it up and you will find yourself without true friends.
What are you going to do when you get in high school and all the older kids pick at you and throws you in a garbage can? Some do freshmen like that. You will change your tune in high school cause you will be last on the list there and you will see then you shouldn't be picking on anyone.

Answer 3

You already know the answer, don't you? You and the other kids are being cruel beyond measure. You must feel like a really cool dude to get off on hurting another human being to that degree. I wonder if it ever occurs to you how it must feel to be taunted that way, day after day, for something that maybe she can't help? This is exactly the kind of situation that results in her bringing her daddy's .357 to school one day and popping a cap in you guys' a.s.s. A person can only take so much abuse before they explode.

You say you're pretty popular. OK, big guy, I'm giving you a challenge. Ever hear the term, "Lead by example"? How about being the one to put a stop to it...the one with the courage to stand up to your peers and say, "This is wrong"? Or maybe you don't have to confront them at all. Maybe you can just walk up to her and apologize for the things you've said in the past, and apologize for the stupid dudes who keep teasing her. Tell her not to pay any attention to them. When your so-called friends confront you, simply tell them that cruelty is never ok. Never.

You are a better person that that, Julio. Do the right thing.

Answer 4

She definitely cares. The best thing you could do is to stand up for her. You don't have to even make it a big deal, but just tell your friends when they say that kind of thing that it's not cool. Obviously you understand that this isn't good to do or you wouldn't be asking. Everyone else that does it also knows it's wrong. Be stronger than them and start change for better. Tell them it's not right to tease someone. Don't tease her yourself. You'll be surprised how much respect you end up getting for it. In middle school everyone is in a herd and people are afraid to step out and be different. But the people that can stand up for something that's right are the ones that are strong. Go ahead and start a change. People might make fun of you for a day or two, but people will see that you're stronger than they are for being able to stand up for her and eventually will be comfortable enough to follow your lead.

Answer 5

To answer your question, I think it is good that you are asking yourself if this is ok. It means you have a concious and care about other people. Secondly, even if you just stand there and do nothing you are guilty. I think the first thing you should do is tell the principle or something. You could even write an annonumous note. After that, appologize to the girl. Say you are sorry that you were being mean. Three, don't ever do it again. Fourth, stick up for her. When your friend says something to her say something to him about his ******* dumbass apperance.
The answer to the question about if she really cares. Yes she does. I was picked on a lot as a kid. I mean a lot. It makes you feel like ****. I use to tell others that I didn't care, but I did. I use to wonder why people hated me when I wasn't being mean to them. I felt like there was something worng intrinsicly with me. I felt like it was my fault, which I now know is not true. Even if this girl is ugly, it is not her fault. I was very poor and could not help that. She can not help it either.
Lastly, people who make fun of others and are bullies are psycologically not happy with themselves either. They have to put others down to make themselves feel better so you and your friends don't have very high opinions of yourselfs. You find soembody beneath you so you feel better.
You know what, bullies are actually wimps in side. ****, the next time some guy is mean to her and you slice into him, he is going to drop like a paper weight. Nobodies going to notice if you don't make fun of her. You don't have to partake in this.

Answer 6

Well that's horrible really. I'm not even going to say what impression i have, although i really think that you can use your popularity to be the good 'bad guy' and stop it without looking like a wa_nker. Just enter class casually when she's being picked upon and say 'Right guys break it up. This joke's getting kinda old'
Only someone like you who's popular can do such a big move and still look cool. That way ur realeasing pressure of the poor girl, you won't feel guilty, and u should be proud u used ur power to do good. If that were the case I's personally take off my hat to you.

Answer 7

how would u feel if u were the one getting teased. you should never do that because u never know what a person is going through. She probably have no other choice but to wear clothes from walmart. what goes around comes around. If u feel like u have to tease her because the other kids do then that means u are a follower instead of a leader. Why dont u set an example by telling ur mean *** friends that that isnt nice of them even if she is going along with it by cursing at you all. what if that was your sister or someone you cared about, would u still tease them?

Answer 8

It is very simple to join in with the crowd in an effort to 'fit in'. Anyone can do it ... But why would you want to?

It takes real Strength to stand for what's right, especially amidst a throng of peers engaged in wrong-doing.

Good Friends--Bad Friends > [Which description fits you?]
- The Need for High Moral Values
- Sizing Up Potential Friends
- The Most Important Things to Have in Common
- Benefiting From Differences in Age
- Improving Your Friendships
- You Can Have True Friends
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_03.htm

EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- Scriptural Examples of Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm *

The Golden Rule--Is It Still Practical?
- A Universal Teaching ...
- It IS Still Practical
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/12/1/article_02.htm *

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Answer 9

If it's bothering you this much I think you know the answer. If you were her, you'd probably want to kill yourself right now, and if she feels so bad about herself that she may do something like this, well, you would have to live with your part in it for the rest of your life. Apologize and move on. You don't have to be best friends, just be polite. After all, if some girl saw you in the locker room and let's say you aren't that hot looking in the shower, and she and everyone else started calling you something really embarassing, and saying something like why do you have your baby brother's penis.......get the point?

Answer 10

Oh course she cares. Being bullied is the worst feeling in the world. It's not her fault if her parents can't afford the "trendy" clothes for her. Maybe your parents should spend less time at work making money to buy you all of these trendy clothes and teach you a lesson in respecting others. EVERYONE goes through an akward stage in our lives. When she's 15, has a body to die for and is beautiful, guess who will be laughing then. It sure won't be you.