Why doadults tell their kids not to fight but to settle things by talking?

Question

because the worse opposite right in front of them because of history and wars going on now. They cant settle their problems just by talkin, so many parents out there should not be pro war. If they were pro-war what kind of influence are they making on their children? What do you think?

Answer 1

Because children are not able to make decisions about when it is appropriate and when it is not appropriate to make violence. A child might slap another child because the other child accidentally walked into him or her. As adults we would never do such a thing, but a child can’t tell the difference between an accident and a deliberate act of aggression.

I’d rather talk than fight any day. In fact the ability to talk is what makes a “real man”. Any moron can start, or continue a fight.

Politics aside - As for choosing violence as adults, often we have few options. Let,s face reality here. Large corporations deliberately steal money from us. They do things like offer rebates that they never plan on paying out. When they do this, they know they will get away with it because the government will do nothing about it. So it is pretty damn justified to place the aggressive corporation under duress, or even torch their office to teach them a lesson. Why is this not done every day? Well, because as adults we know that some innocent person may get hurt. We don’t want anyone to get hurt, so we let these corporations continue to rip us off. Children don’t have the reasoning to say, “Hey if I extract revenge on that company, someone could get hurt!”.

I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I am advocating, but not recommending violence.

Answer 2

Because trying to settle things by talking is better than just fighting. do you want your child to be beat up at school b/c the child decided not to talk. And bringing up the war.. wow.. that is a totally different situation. So if my son starts beating up children at school should I say it is b/c his daddy fights the war also and he just wants to be like his daddy? With children.. it is better to talk things out then to fight. I don't want my son to be afraid to go to school b/c other parents tell their children to just smack the kid if they annoy them, or to just punch the kid if he has the wrong answer to the problem. Why would you want your children out their fighting instead of talking things out. Do you see adults in the work place fighting and beating each other up b/c one person got the promotion and the others didn't.. so should they all rally together.. do a war strategy and take down their opponent. There is a time and place for fighting.. obviously the US has tried solving their problems by talking and making agreements, rights, constitution, amendments, acts... all b/c they wanted peace and would rather barter and trade then have to fight. And when someone violates those treaties, acts, and rights... well they have to take action and show them that it isn't right to break rules. So us being at war has nothing to do with "talking it out" do you think we can talk osama into apologizing for his actions and to turn himself in peacefully... no way! So why do you want to put your children in the situation of thinking that fighting is the answer to all problems.... most problems in this world can be talked out and handled properly... and when they can't.. its war. So why do you think we tell our children to talk things out????? I am pro war... i would rather have our men and women out their fighting for us... then have those terrorists here in our country in our land fighting us here... and killing our children and our women and our innocent ppl. Would you want that???? My husband is serving his country so you can have your freedom of speach and I have served my country so you can have your freedom of speach and protect everyone here.... and your talking about how fighting is good for children... well i wouldn't want to be your kids and i hope my children never meet your children.... i really do

Answer 3

Because violence breeds violence,every problem that I have come across with my children was solved by talking. I just don't believe in violence of any kind,especially war.

Answer 4

If you can settle things by talking, you'll be well prepared for the real world where you have no other choice.

Answer 5

because they don't remember what its like to be a kid they don't remember that bullys don't listen to reason. In my opinion there is not much else you can do but to teach your child to defend themselves.