I don't get along with my son n law,he is mean to her as well as to the kids.She has always gotten me involved in their squabbles.
I think he is evil,He is possessed on Sunday.I've never seen anybody act the way he does .I just don't want to be around him.I just don't know what to do.Please help.
2007-01-12 12:28:00 · 10 answers · asked by annie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yea but you have to understand he's hooked on gambling.He's lost everything from vehicle to home,and my daughter and the 4 kids had to move in with us.Ben going ever since they married,they're oldest daughter is 18 years old.
2007-01-12 13:04:57 · update #1
Perhaps the best thing to do is to just reassure your daughter that you will always be there for her, but do not judge your son-n-law. I know, easier said than done, but I am sure most of the time that the reason that your daugher gets you involved in their scabbles is just because she needs someone to listen to her, someone to confide in, not necessarily someone to give her advice.
I know that there are times that I just want my mom to listen to me, and not give me advice. Even if he is bad to her or her kids, she is the one who has made the choice to live with him, and most women, even if they know that their husband is doing something wrong, just want a friend to confide in and a shoulder to lean on, not judgement or advice.
Try just listening to her, and don't say anything bad about the husband, and see if things get better and you start seeing the grandkids again.
2007-01-12 12:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly all wives/husbands always tell their partner/spouse what their parent thinks of them. So if she is involving you in their squabbles.. and you say bad stuff about him, then he is going to get upset and not want you around. have you ever seen him be mean to her and the kids? or is that just what you hear from your daughter? All squabbles and fights have two stories... do you know what she does? I wouldn't want you to see my kids either if you were telling me horrible things about my husband. She is married to him and obviously not getting a divorce b/c she is happy with him and loves him very much. I don't understand the he is possessed on sunday part... i have no idea what your talking about. But I would tell her if she calls that these are her problems and she needs to stop coming to you for advice b/c you are not being fair and listening to both sides and you are assuming everything is his fault. I talk to my mother about my fights with my husband... and i always leave out what i did to upset him and what i said to him to make him mad... then she would probably definitely take his side b/c i am very witchy sometimes and i'm pregnant and very hormonal... so i like to think i'm always right no matter what. So I would find out more before you start judging your son in law.
2007-01-12 21:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is to have a serious talk with your daughter. She might be able to realize all the good things you've done for her. She might be at a point wherein she's got problems with her husband as well. Say, she's following all the nasty rules her husband tells her which might be against her will too but she's trap in that relationship. Try to seek the help of their friends who might be able to convince the couple to be nice with you.
You may try to give them gifts if you want. Try to give anything that will surely help them in their finances if you could shed some. Or perhaps, time will only heal the wounds. Take a break and love yourself. Get a vacation, who knows, after a much needed vacation you might have the surprise you want.
2007-01-12 20:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by funky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do, you can ask to take the kids, but she is punishing you through the kids for not liking him.This is a real heart break, unless you have lots of money and take her to court for visitation, not much can be done.
2007-01-12 20:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's "possessed"?
Just because you don't like him, it doesn't mean he's not a good dad.
Your daughter loves him. When she calls you about their squabbles, tell her they are her squabbles, NOT YOURS.
If I ever found out my mother in law was saying I'm evil or possessed around my child, SHE"D NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN EITHER!
2007-01-12 20:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats so sad, It would be so awful if i couldn't see my Grandkids........Try to talk to your Daughter, Just stay away from him if he's a jerk......Sat down woman to woman with her and tell her how bad this is hurting you and the little ones......I will say a prayer for you....Good Luck
2007-01-12 20:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Happy_Wheatland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she just needs to take a step back and realize that he is possessed.
when you go over there take some holy water. if you dont have any with you then bring some water to a priest and have him bless it.
if this doesnt work try getting him into counseling.
2007-01-12 20:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by buzz kill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possessed? No such thing. Though, really, she probably has a valid reason for preventing you from seeing him. You should ask her why and sort it out.
2007-01-12 20:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Random G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit irritating her. If you don't have something nice to say, stay quiet.
2007-01-12 20:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by my_evil_twin_41 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kidnap the children.
2007-01-12 20:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Apache Rose Peacock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋